Advice and/or options for teen mother?

My fiance's 17 year old sister is looking for advice. She has a two month old baby. Her parents are recently divorced, but are united against the baby's father (another 17 year old). Her mother has repeatedly said that she's responsible for both the teen and her baby as long as she's a minor, therefore the teen has to obey her rules and do what she says when it comes to the baby (for example, she forbids allowing the baby to stay overnight with the father at his parents home). She forbids the father from coming to her home to see her daughter and/or the baby. Additionally, she has made threats that if her daughter does not obey then she can pack her stuff and leave. However, when her daughter accepted and was offered a place to stay with her child's father at his parents home (yes, the offer was by his parents, not just him)...her mother called the police when she left. She can not be emancipated because she lives in Ohio...any advice to offer? She has eight months until 18!Advice and/or options for teen mother?
Maybe she should look into mediation through the court system. I understand if Ohio law doesn't allow her to be emancipated which means that she may not have any say about where she lives for the next 8 months or who is allowed in that home. But the courts should be able to register a visitation agreement that would allow the child's father to have access to his baby. If they're both on good terms this shouldn't take a court case to decide the details but once the court has registered it, it will be a legal order that her mother has to follow. Which would mean that the father could get to know the child and would have to keep some contact with your fiance's sister to do that.Advice and/or options for teen mother?
she should just say her mother is crazy and threatens to hurt her or her baby, and that she doesnt feel safe living with her.I dont know the laws there because i live in canada. her mother is f'ing retarded for doing that because as soon as that girl turns 18 she is going to be out that door so fast. She should have no say as to when the babies father can see his own child.


what a retarded state.
It is in the young ladies best interest to contact professionals in your state that deals directly with teen pregnancy and family relations. No one here can give you specifics with out knowning the legal restraints of OH. Dial 211 give them your zipcode and ask for teen pregnancy counseling services and try starting there. Hopefully this doesn't blow up to legal issues and having a court get involved. No parent can be denied access to their child in the eyes of the court if no proven harm.Good luck.
Yeah, keep her legs closed.





She is a big burden now and has ruined her life.





If I were Mom I would have let her go.





Tell her to consider adoption - its not too late.
Wait it out.


Be a good parent until then..be responsible and loving with the baby. That way no one can call her unfit.


I'm going to assume that the father ,although young, is a good guy. Keep in touch with the father and his family. If he is a good guy then he deserves to be a part of his baby's life. Especially those first precious years. She can meet with the father and baby outside of the home. 8 months is not long...it's worth the wait. Just trust her instincts when it comes to raising her baby, (like food,clothes,potty,lessons,etc) and do right by the litttle one. Parental freedom will come in time. 8 months is not long. The parents only have the best intentions for her and the baby. B parents/ in-laws and grandparents can get ugly sometimes. Avoid fighting with them. Find ways to work around it till the 8 monrths is up. No use living with arguments if you HAVE to live there. Just be civil till she can leave at 18...who knows, maybe things will get better before then.
If she can hang in there as best as possible, then I would do this, and for my 18th birthday as a present to myself, I would leave.


I can understand that her mother wants the best for both of them, but seems to be taking things a bit too far.





How about your fiance speak to his mother about his sister and his concerns.
Sounds like her mother is being hard headed..... I am assuming she is trying to look out for the baby, mostly though.


I feel the daughter needs to sit down maturely with her mother and make an arrangement so that the father can see his child, at her house. With respect no matter how much the mother does not like him, she does need to respect the fact that she can not change whom the father of the baby is........


This way the mother will not be overwhelmingly worried about her daughter taking the infant to a house she is not comfy with and at the same time.... for 8 months the father would be able to spend time with his growing daughter.


Sounds like the safest way....


Hope this helps out a little bit. I live in Ohio too.... laws are awfully icky at times but they are there for reasons,,, mostly to protect, if and when it is possible.


I learned the hard way also.

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