Ok so I'm 14 and I feel like I'm going to take my swimming sessions again. I'm fairly slim but I feel like I want to tone up again
I want to also start running. On saturdays I take Judo lessons but I think I'm going to switch to Yoga.
What I'm trying to ask is for how long and how many hours should I go swimming a week?
I want to see a definite improvement by the time school ends (June 20th).
So? Thanks guys!
And Any specific diet I could maybe follow? I dont eat too much but should I eat more? And if you guys know any healthy diets I can have maybe that could be cool. :)Swimming for a teen( Need advice)?
Well James you are only 14 and should not worry about a diet. Just make sure that you eat healthy food and not a lot of crap. Like one sweat a day can be fine. Make sure that you eat enough so that you are full. Swimming burns a lot of calories and you need food to keep up your energy.
For the swimming part. You should start out swimming about 45 minutes 3 days a week for two weeks. Then you should switch to an hour for 3 days a week for one week. Then you should switch to an hour of swimming 5 days a week. If you are fateful to this schedule for every month you should be able to get into pretty good shape.
Swimming for a teen( Need advice)?
say 4-6 hours of swimming a week (thats how much i swim) but if your new to the sport (im on my 6th year compeating) try 3-4 and try hard!!! your only 14 so you dont need a diet. just dont eat a lot of crap!!
Friday, April 30, 2010
Competing for miss teen nj?? advice plz!?
ok well i sent in the application and they called back for a phone interview, if i make it , can have some advice as to how to go about competing for this and how to pick out correct attire and things like that. if u have ever competed before i would appreciate the help!!Competing for miss teen nj?? advice plz!?
Please be prepared in case they ask you any question that has to do with Americans not being able to find the U.S. on a map.Competing for miss teen nj?? advice plz!?
lmao independent. nice answer
Maybe you should see about getting a pageant coach?
suck off the judges
Please be prepared in case they ask you any question that has to do with Americans not being able to find the U.S. on a map.Competing for miss teen nj?? advice plz!?
lmao independent. nice answer
Maybe you should see about getting a pageant coach?
suck off the judges
Any advice for a career-clueless teen?
I'm in high school, and up until now I'd decided on becoming a psychiatrist. But now I'm having second thoughts. I've realized that maths and sciences, while I do well in both, aren't what I want my future to be. I like humanities, in particular psychology and literature. The thing is, I don't know what is ultimately better for me. I know I'm supposed to do what I love, but I'm concerned of my future, finance-wise. If I go into what I love, I'm not guaranteed a high income whatsoever, whereas if I do what I push myself to do (maths/sciences) I'd earn almost double, and I'd feel more accomplished. I'm just really confused. If only there was a career in psychology that you could really earn a large salary from...I'm not money-hungry, just looking to the future. Any advice? I know I have time till I have to decide, but I'd just like to have an idea of where I'm headed. Thank you.Any advice for a career-clueless teen?
A long time ago when I was in high school, my Vice Principal gave me some of the best advice I ever received: ';Sometimes the right choice for later is a very difficult choice to make now.'; She explained that I might someday be in a job where I was making a lot of money, but that I would have to decide to leave that job to push my career to the next level, and that I would probably lose money in the short-term, but that it would open doors for me and be the right choice in the long run. She couldn't have been more accurate.
From my personal experience and from Ms. Sisko's advice so long ago, I developed my own little saying that has guided me through many difficult career decisions: ';Allow the life-plan to change often.';
Right now your goal should be to get into a college and pursue a major that you find interesting and that will lead you to a specific field of work. I chose hospitality management because I liked working with people, enjoyed travel, and because I knew quite a few specific careers could come from a degree in hospitality. I landed on hospitality after reading a career-planning book. It evaluated your skills, your likes and dislikes, your work style, your performance in school, and your ultimate long-term goals and then gave you some ideas about careers that were related to all of this information. Nowadays, you can probably find similar surveys on the web. Start with the big sites like Monster.com or CareerBuilder.com and see what they can tell you.
It's possible to make a lot of money and be unhappy or to make very little money and be the happiest person alive. DO NOT let money guide your career choices. Consider your happiness, fulfillment, personal values, and the long-term opportunities that each job offers. Where did you get your information that resulted in your statement about maths/sciences earning you double? That's a dangerous generalization that may or may not hold true in the long-run. Yes, there are high-paying jobs in math and science. No, they are not easy to get and there aren't nearly as many of them as there are middle and low-paying jobs in maths and sciences.
As for psychiatry, here's a few thoughts. I bet your school has a psychiatrist or psychologist. Go and talk to that person. Find out why they love what they do, what advice they have for someone in the field, and how they got there. I'm sure you'll be surprised to find out what they make each year. If I had to guess, I'd say that every school in America probably has someone working there with a degree in one of those areas. Find out who they are. Then go to the public records in your town and find out what they make. You'll be pleasantly surprised.
There are a lot of jobs in the humanities that don't pay a lot, but that come with a lot of rewards. Suppose I told you now that you would go to college for 4 years, spend quite a bit of money doing so, and immediately after college end up with your dream job. You'd be fulfilled every day that you came home, you'd give back to society, you'd improve the lives of others, you'd make a real difference in your community, you'd meet the love of your life while working there, your work would take you on travels across the country, and you'd die a happy person.
Now suppose that all of the above things happened when after college you ended up working at a homeless shelter providing counseling to bums, winos, and paupers. Suppose I told you that you'd have to rent a one bedroom apartment for the rest of your life, and that you'd work in a run-down building with only 2 other people, that you'd have to take public transportation to a conference across the country because that's all your organization could afford, and that you would never be rich doing it. ...wouldn't you still want all of the things I mentioned in the first paragraph? Would you give up all of those wonderful benefits because you knew in advance that you wouldn't be rich? Were you any better-off in a one-bedroom apartment with the love of your life than you would have been in a mansion, living alone in solitude? I think so.
Allow the life-plan to change often and go with your heart, but with a realistic career in mind. Talk to your guidance counselors, your community leaders, the local Rotary Club, your spiritual leaders, your parents, your friend's parents, and see what you can learn now. You'll be fine in the long-run since you're already planning ahead.Any advice for a career-clueless teen?
dermatologist is a good one
im gonna be a doctor:)
Here's a cliche line, ';Money can't buy you happiness.';
I've done jobs that are more artistic and make me happy, but are not stable and do not pay out big. I've done jobs that are boring, mindless, soul numbing, but high pay and stable.
I was very good at both types and I worked very hard in both. But at the end of the day, the job that made me happy left me feeling good whereas the other job just made me dread getting up the next day and doing it all over again. I started to hate life in general, which tends to make for a very unhappy, cranky, pessimistic person. It makes you loose part of the joy of being alive and the joy of being alive can get your through hard times.
I can tell you from experience that it is not worth the money to do a job you hate. Yes, money can make you feel safer. However, you need to balance that sense of security with being happy with yourself.
I can't tell you which career path to take, but I can recommend summer internships. They can let you sample both paths and maybe help you make your decision. Also, keep in mind that no matter how old you are, nothing is set in stone. You can always reinvent yourself if you are on the wrong path. Sure it gets harder the older you get, but as long as you are still alive you can always change your life. Don't fear making the wrong decision about your future so much that you fail to enjoy your present.
A long time ago when I was in high school, my Vice Principal gave me some of the best advice I ever received: ';Sometimes the right choice for later is a very difficult choice to make now.'; She explained that I might someday be in a job where I was making a lot of money, but that I would have to decide to leave that job to push my career to the next level, and that I would probably lose money in the short-term, but that it would open doors for me and be the right choice in the long run. She couldn't have been more accurate.
From my personal experience and from Ms. Sisko's advice so long ago, I developed my own little saying that has guided me through many difficult career decisions: ';Allow the life-plan to change often.';
Right now your goal should be to get into a college and pursue a major that you find interesting and that will lead you to a specific field of work. I chose hospitality management because I liked working with people, enjoyed travel, and because I knew quite a few specific careers could come from a degree in hospitality. I landed on hospitality after reading a career-planning book. It evaluated your skills, your likes and dislikes, your work style, your performance in school, and your ultimate long-term goals and then gave you some ideas about careers that were related to all of this information. Nowadays, you can probably find similar surveys on the web. Start with the big sites like Monster.com or CareerBuilder.com and see what they can tell you.
It's possible to make a lot of money and be unhappy or to make very little money and be the happiest person alive. DO NOT let money guide your career choices. Consider your happiness, fulfillment, personal values, and the long-term opportunities that each job offers. Where did you get your information that resulted in your statement about maths/sciences earning you double? That's a dangerous generalization that may or may not hold true in the long-run. Yes, there are high-paying jobs in math and science. No, they are not easy to get and there aren't nearly as many of them as there are middle and low-paying jobs in maths and sciences.
As for psychiatry, here's a few thoughts. I bet your school has a psychiatrist or psychologist. Go and talk to that person. Find out why they love what they do, what advice they have for someone in the field, and how they got there. I'm sure you'll be surprised to find out what they make each year. If I had to guess, I'd say that every school in America probably has someone working there with a degree in one of those areas. Find out who they are. Then go to the public records in your town and find out what they make. You'll be pleasantly surprised.
There are a lot of jobs in the humanities that don't pay a lot, but that come with a lot of rewards. Suppose I told you now that you would go to college for 4 years, spend quite a bit of money doing so, and immediately after college end up with your dream job. You'd be fulfilled every day that you came home, you'd give back to society, you'd improve the lives of others, you'd make a real difference in your community, you'd meet the love of your life while working there, your work would take you on travels across the country, and you'd die a happy person.
Now suppose that all of the above things happened when after college you ended up working at a homeless shelter providing counseling to bums, winos, and paupers. Suppose I told you that you'd have to rent a one bedroom apartment for the rest of your life, and that you'd work in a run-down building with only 2 other people, that you'd have to take public transportation to a conference across the country because that's all your organization could afford, and that you would never be rich doing it. ...wouldn't you still want all of the things I mentioned in the first paragraph? Would you give up all of those wonderful benefits because you knew in advance that you wouldn't be rich? Were you any better-off in a one-bedroom apartment with the love of your life than you would have been in a mansion, living alone in solitude? I think so.
Allow the life-plan to change often and go with your heart, but with a realistic career in mind. Talk to your guidance counselors, your community leaders, the local Rotary Club, your spiritual leaders, your parents, your friend's parents, and see what you can learn now. You'll be fine in the long-run since you're already planning ahead.Any advice for a career-clueless teen?
dermatologist is a good one
im gonna be a doctor:)
Here's a cliche line, ';Money can't buy you happiness.';
I've done jobs that are more artistic and make me happy, but are not stable and do not pay out big. I've done jobs that are boring, mindless, soul numbing, but high pay and stable.
I was very good at both types and I worked very hard in both. But at the end of the day, the job that made me happy left me feeling good whereas the other job just made me dread getting up the next day and doing it all over again. I started to hate life in general, which tends to make for a very unhappy, cranky, pessimistic person. It makes you loose part of the joy of being alive and the joy of being alive can get your through hard times.
I can tell you from experience that it is not worth the money to do a job you hate. Yes, money can make you feel safer. However, you need to balance that sense of security with being happy with yourself.
I can't tell you which career path to take, but I can recommend summer internships. They can let you sample both paths and maybe help you make your decision. Also, keep in mind that no matter how old you are, nothing is set in stone. You can always reinvent yourself if you are on the wrong path. Sure it gets harder the older you get, but as long as you are still alive you can always change your life. Don't fear making the wrong decision about your future so much that you fail to enjoy your present.
Advice and/or options for teen mother?
My fiance's 17 year old sister is looking for advice. She has a two month old baby. Her parents are recently divorced, but are united against the baby's father (another 17 year old). Her mother has repeatedly said that she's responsible for both the teen and her baby as long as she's a minor, therefore the teen has to obey her rules and do what she says when it comes to the baby (for example, she forbids allowing the baby to stay overnight with the father at his parents home). She forbids the father from coming to her home to see her daughter and/or the baby. Additionally, she has made threats that if her daughter does not obey then she can pack her stuff and leave. However, when her daughter accepted and was offered a place to stay with her child's father at his parents home (yes, the offer was by his parents, not just him)...her mother called the police when she left. She can not be emancipated because she lives in Ohio...any advice to offer? She has eight months until 18!Advice and/or options for teen mother?
Maybe she should look into mediation through the court system. I understand if Ohio law doesn't allow her to be emancipated which means that she may not have any say about where she lives for the next 8 months or who is allowed in that home. But the courts should be able to register a visitation agreement that would allow the child's father to have access to his baby. If they're both on good terms this shouldn't take a court case to decide the details but once the court has registered it, it will be a legal order that her mother has to follow. Which would mean that the father could get to know the child and would have to keep some contact with your fiance's sister to do that.Advice and/or options for teen mother?
she should just say her mother is crazy and threatens to hurt her or her baby, and that she doesnt feel safe living with her.I dont know the laws there because i live in canada. her mother is f'ing retarded for doing that because as soon as that girl turns 18 she is going to be out that door so fast. She should have no say as to when the babies father can see his own child.
what a retarded state.
It is in the young ladies best interest to contact professionals in your state that deals directly with teen pregnancy and family relations. No one here can give you specifics with out knowning the legal restraints of OH. Dial 211 give them your zipcode and ask for teen pregnancy counseling services and try starting there. Hopefully this doesn't blow up to legal issues and having a court get involved. No parent can be denied access to their child in the eyes of the court if no proven harm.Good luck.
Yeah, keep her legs closed.
She is a big burden now and has ruined her life.
If I were Mom I would have let her go.
Tell her to consider adoption - its not too late.
Wait it out.
Be a good parent until then..be responsible and loving with the baby. That way no one can call her unfit.
I'm going to assume that the father ,although young, is a good guy. Keep in touch with the father and his family. If he is a good guy then he deserves to be a part of his baby's life. Especially those first precious years. She can meet with the father and baby outside of the home. 8 months is not long...it's worth the wait. Just trust her instincts when it comes to raising her baby, (like food,clothes,potty,lessons,etc) and do right by the litttle one. Parental freedom will come in time. 8 months is not long. The parents only have the best intentions for her and the baby. B parents/ in-laws and grandparents can get ugly sometimes. Avoid fighting with them. Find ways to work around it till the 8 monrths is up. No use living with arguments if you HAVE to live there. Just be civil till she can leave at 18...who knows, maybe things will get better before then.
If she can hang in there as best as possible, then I would do this, and for my 18th birthday as a present to myself, I would leave.
I can understand that her mother wants the best for both of them, but seems to be taking things a bit too far.
How about your fiance speak to his mother about his sister and his concerns.
Sounds like her mother is being hard headed..... I am assuming she is trying to look out for the baby, mostly though.
I feel the daughter needs to sit down maturely with her mother and make an arrangement so that the father can see his child, at her house. With respect no matter how much the mother does not like him, she does need to respect the fact that she can not change whom the father of the baby is........
This way the mother will not be overwhelmingly worried about her daughter taking the infant to a house she is not comfy with and at the same time.... for 8 months the father would be able to spend time with his growing daughter.
Sounds like the safest way....
Hope this helps out a little bit. I live in Ohio too.... laws are awfully icky at times but they are there for reasons,,, mostly to protect, if and when it is possible.
I learned the hard way also.natural make up
Maybe she should look into mediation through the court system. I understand if Ohio law doesn't allow her to be emancipated which means that she may not have any say about where she lives for the next 8 months or who is allowed in that home. But the courts should be able to register a visitation agreement that would allow the child's father to have access to his baby. If they're both on good terms this shouldn't take a court case to decide the details but once the court has registered it, it will be a legal order that her mother has to follow. Which would mean that the father could get to know the child and would have to keep some contact with your fiance's sister to do that.Advice and/or options for teen mother?
she should just say her mother is crazy and threatens to hurt her or her baby, and that she doesnt feel safe living with her.I dont know the laws there because i live in canada. her mother is f'ing retarded for doing that because as soon as that girl turns 18 she is going to be out that door so fast. She should have no say as to when the babies father can see his own child.
what a retarded state.
It is in the young ladies best interest to contact professionals in your state that deals directly with teen pregnancy and family relations. No one here can give you specifics with out knowning the legal restraints of OH. Dial 211 give them your zipcode and ask for teen pregnancy counseling services and try starting there. Hopefully this doesn't blow up to legal issues and having a court get involved. No parent can be denied access to their child in the eyes of the court if no proven harm.Good luck.
Yeah, keep her legs closed.
She is a big burden now and has ruined her life.
If I were Mom I would have let her go.
Tell her to consider adoption - its not too late.
Wait it out.
Be a good parent until then..be responsible and loving with the baby. That way no one can call her unfit.
I'm going to assume that the father ,although young, is a good guy. Keep in touch with the father and his family. If he is a good guy then he deserves to be a part of his baby's life. Especially those first precious years. She can meet with the father and baby outside of the home. 8 months is not long...it's worth the wait. Just trust her instincts when it comes to raising her baby, (like food,clothes,potty,lessons,etc) and do right by the litttle one. Parental freedom will come in time. 8 months is not long. The parents only have the best intentions for her and the baby. B parents/ in-laws and grandparents can get ugly sometimes. Avoid fighting with them. Find ways to work around it till the 8 monrths is up. No use living with arguments if you HAVE to live there. Just be civil till she can leave at 18...who knows, maybe things will get better before then.
If she can hang in there as best as possible, then I would do this, and for my 18th birthday as a present to myself, I would leave.
I can understand that her mother wants the best for both of them, but seems to be taking things a bit too far.
How about your fiance speak to his mother about his sister and his concerns.
Sounds like her mother is being hard headed..... I am assuming she is trying to look out for the baby, mostly though.
I feel the daughter needs to sit down maturely with her mother and make an arrangement so that the father can see his child, at her house. With respect no matter how much the mother does not like him, she does need to respect the fact that she can not change whom the father of the baby is........
This way the mother will not be overwhelmingly worried about her daughter taking the infant to a house she is not comfy with and at the same time.... for 8 months the father would be able to spend time with his growing daughter.
Sounds like the safest way....
Hope this helps out a little bit. I live in Ohio too.... laws are awfully icky at times but they are there for reasons,,, mostly to protect, if and when it is possible.
I learned the hard way also.
Advice for starting a [school] ]teen mag?Any comment appreciated?
I started a teen mag(for males and females about all sorts of teen issues) at my school-we started off well, but then when the asignments came, the writers dodged. Anyway, i don't want it to die out coz its a good idea and besides it'll give me Creativity hours for IB. The writers were all friends and I'm a teen. There were 2 main problems:
*no good time for all 6 writers to meet
*not handing in articlesAdvice for starting a [school] ]teen mag?Any comment appreciated?
well for something like that you need commitment.
dont get started if youre not ognna stay commited.
you need to tell these people they need to set aside time to write if they are going to do so. and they need to meet with you and tell you the articles.
id do it via email or you could even meet with each person individually.
to me that sounds like a club and everyone needs to take it seriously. it sounds like the people who are not handing in articles dont get how important that is.
because its sorta like homework.
if you dont turn it in youre gonan get a bad grade.
maybe you can try to find some people who have more time to write for you?
or maybe if you give out the assignments you can try to listen to what everyone else wants to write about.
you really need to make out a calender and pass it around to each person and have them write their schedule down each week and find a time that no one is doing anything or just ask nicely if they could set aside a time maybe 4-5 each Wed. to talk about it.
if you dont tackle the problem now im afraid to say your magazine may not work out :-s
ask them why they were writing. if its just because they want to write it sounds like a mood type thing and if they arent in the mood they arent goign to do it.
make sure they know they have readers who are depending on them and if they dont write then not only are they letting the readers down, theyre letting you and everyone else down..including themself.
now sometimes things do come up.
but really id try emailing or maybe IM conferences instead of meeting. maybe try to talk in IM its still a good way to listen to everyone and very convient rather than finding some time to meet with everyone.
hope everything turns out well for ya!!%26lt;3Advice for starting a [school] ]teen mag?Any comment appreciated?
Just get the writers to write then email it you and the rest of the group its sorta like your doing it all from email.
Perhaps you don't necessarily need for the writers to meet upfront. Can you guys just do it in a chat room? If there are no good times to meet face to face, its the best you can do --- maybe e-mail each other your work.
If people are being to lazy to hand in articles however -- its my opinion you should be getting more devoted writers. Creative writers are abundant, and if you want this magazine to succeed for a long time you need to find a few of them, keeping up a magazine is hard work.
Good luck. =)
*no good time for all 6 writers to meet
*not handing in articlesAdvice for starting a [school] ]teen mag?Any comment appreciated?
well for something like that you need commitment.
dont get started if youre not ognna stay commited.
you need to tell these people they need to set aside time to write if they are going to do so. and they need to meet with you and tell you the articles.
id do it via email or you could even meet with each person individually.
to me that sounds like a club and everyone needs to take it seriously. it sounds like the people who are not handing in articles dont get how important that is.
because its sorta like homework.
if you dont turn it in youre gonan get a bad grade.
maybe you can try to find some people who have more time to write for you?
or maybe if you give out the assignments you can try to listen to what everyone else wants to write about.
you really need to make out a calender and pass it around to each person and have them write their schedule down each week and find a time that no one is doing anything or just ask nicely if they could set aside a time maybe 4-5 each Wed. to talk about it.
if you dont tackle the problem now im afraid to say your magazine may not work out :-s
ask them why they were writing. if its just because they want to write it sounds like a mood type thing and if they arent in the mood they arent goign to do it.
make sure they know they have readers who are depending on them and if they dont write then not only are they letting the readers down, theyre letting you and everyone else down..including themself.
now sometimes things do come up.
but really id try emailing or maybe IM conferences instead of meeting. maybe try to talk in IM its still a good way to listen to everyone and very convient rather than finding some time to meet with everyone.
hope everything turns out well for ya!!%26lt;3Advice for starting a [school] ]teen mag?Any comment appreciated?
Just get the writers to write then email it you and the rest of the group its sorta like your doing it all from email.
Perhaps you don't necessarily need for the writers to meet upfront. Can you guys just do it in a chat room? If there are no good times to meet face to face, its the best you can do --- maybe e-mail each other your work.
If people are being to lazy to hand in articles however -- its my opinion you should be getting more devoted writers. Creative writers are abundant, and if you want this magazine to succeed for a long time you need to find a few of them, keeping up a magazine is hard work.
Good luck. =)
Advice for me, an immatured teen please?
we re having a gathering tomorrow, at my house. we have said earlier to prepare for the steamboat together. but now, everyone will be late . even one of them pull out at the last minute.
I'm indeed angry. it's is meant to be done together. i'm not the one suggested but since my house is the most suitable spot so i allow it to be held here upon request from friend.
i'm still angry. but at the same time, blaming myself to be such immatured. it's actually just a small petty issue yet i'm incensed by this. and i'm always like this, i mean pissed off by small things.
if u were me, how would you tell yourself to be calm, to stop blamming your friends, to think positively and maturely ?
i know i'm wrong and this is something to be learnt and overcome in life. i hope i can be like my mum, more considerating and thoughtful towards other. but till now, i cant find a reason to forgive such unimportant things!Advice for me, an immatured teen please?
It sounds to me like your expectations of your peers are not realistic. I am guessing that the steamboat has something to do with school.
Thinking positively and thinking maturely are two different things. If you expect people to be late and even cancel at the last minute, then deal with that. Don't make the mistake of letting everyone lean on you (that's not maturity, it's submission). I believe this kind of thing happens because of assignments from school - assignments which you students wouldn't choose to do if you weren't in school and provides excellent information on how to do it.
Whether I'm on the right track or not, I recommend that you check out Grace Llewellyn's ';The Teenage Liberation Handbook'; in which she makes a good argument for liberating yourselves from school.Advice for me, an immatured teen please?
your friends blew you off. Anyone would be angry at first. But they are the losers. Never say a word, just never invite them to anything again or more importantly never accept invitations from them. To anything. Drop them.
Silence, hard as it will be will be the best way.
';I don't know, ask them.'; when someone asks what the problem is.
The less you refer to the blow off the more obvious it will be that these guys are not friends.
';We had a delightful time, thank you.'; and leave i at that.
I'm indeed angry. it's is meant to be done together. i'm not the one suggested but since my house is the most suitable spot so i allow it to be held here upon request from friend.
i'm still angry. but at the same time, blaming myself to be such immatured. it's actually just a small petty issue yet i'm incensed by this. and i'm always like this, i mean pissed off by small things.
if u were me, how would you tell yourself to be calm, to stop blamming your friends, to think positively and maturely ?
i know i'm wrong and this is something to be learnt and overcome in life. i hope i can be like my mum, more considerating and thoughtful towards other. but till now, i cant find a reason to forgive such unimportant things!Advice for me, an immatured teen please?
It sounds to me like your expectations of your peers are not realistic. I am guessing that the steamboat has something to do with school.
Thinking positively and thinking maturely are two different things. If you expect people to be late and even cancel at the last minute, then deal with that. Don't make the mistake of letting everyone lean on you (that's not maturity, it's submission). I believe this kind of thing happens because of assignments from school - assignments which you students wouldn't choose to do if you weren't in school and provides excellent information on how to do it.
Whether I'm on the right track or not, I recommend that you check out Grace Llewellyn's ';The Teenage Liberation Handbook'; in which she makes a good argument for liberating yourselves from school.Advice for me, an immatured teen please?
your friends blew you off. Anyone would be angry at first. But they are the losers. Never say a word, just never invite them to anything again or more importantly never accept invitations from them. To anything. Drop them.
Silence, hard as it will be will be the best way.
';I don't know, ask them.'; when someone asks what the problem is.
The less you refer to the blow off the more obvious it will be that these guys are not friends.
';We had a delightful time, thank you.'; and leave i at that.
Advice for soon to be teen mother?
So here is my sad story. I have just found out that I am over two months pregnant and I am only seventeen. My parents practically disowned me when I told them about it so their is no hope from them, and my boyfriend is just starting college this fall and says he isn't going to through his life away on his high school girlfriend and a baby that might not even be his. (Which is ridiculous because he is the only person I have ever been with, he just doesn't want to take responsibility for his actions).
I am not going to have an abortion, it is not and will never be an option. And I have medical problems that make it practically impossible to get pregnant (which is how I got pregnant because we didn't use any protection because my OB/GYN said I would never be able to conceive). So I refuse to give my child up for adoption because he or she maybe the only child I ever have, the baby may have come at a bad time but he/she is a miracle!
I have just started college and don't want to drop out. Of course I will have to take spring semester off when I have my baby but then I want to go right back. I have a minimum wage part time job but I know that wont be enough to take care of my baby. I need help but don't have anyone. I would love to hear some advice from other mothers, exspecaly teen mothers or former teen mothers. I need both emotional encouragement and financial advice.
Thanks in advance!Advice for soon to be teen mother?
Don't even listen to that stupid ***** Barbq. She isn't the brightest bulb in the box. I think you can do this, because you are willing to and I can tell you already love your baby. The best thing for a baby is his mother. You may however have to hold of school for another year after the baby comes just to get yourself settled. Talk to your college counselor she can help you. She will probably get you a social worker, don't worry their are a lot of government programs out their for you. And a lot of colleges offer family housing. You can get student loans to pay for your education and family housing, and a meal plan. The government will help with the babies needs. I think it is your best bet to stay in school. And you go girl! It is teens like yourself how make me proud are country has government assistance programs.Advice for soon to be teen mother?
Wow I can relate. Except I'm younger. I'm 15 and 12 weeks. The boyfriend dumped me a week after we did what HE wantedto do. He used me really bad. He knew the possiblity of me getting pregnant and how it would change his life and he just couldn't havethat. So I was on my own. Almost 3 months later I
DI guess you better find a way to stay in school. You have NO idea how POOR you are going be on Public Assistance. NO money at all for anything other than rent and diapers.
He isn't going to be involved? Take him to court. Get a paternity test and if the baby is his he will HAVE to pay child support. What a jerk.
Help your parents understand your situation.
You can do it. It will be hard but it's worth it for you %26amp; your baby.
I know that wasn't a lot but... w/e
Well just pray for answers and talk to people who have already experianced it. Good luck honey.
That's a tough situation.
I'm a teen mom! I had all of the support of my family, boyfriend and his family so my situation is alot easier.
First of all, your life IS NOT SCREWED UP, its just an extra addition to your life!! An overwhelming exciting experience in your life. You should talk to your bf's family and tell them. Do you have any other relatives that might help you??
and You won't drop out of college, girls who drop out are just lazyy.
DON'T EVER GIVE UP FOR YOUR CHILD, CUZ ONCE YOU SEE HIM/HER, ALL YOU WANT IS THE BEST FOR HIM/HER. He/she will keep you motivated to do what is best.
Right now my son is sleeping next to me, i'm just watching him. Its tough, but you can get through.
Goodluck %26lt;333
While your sad story seemingly has you backed into a corner and, I could chastise for having unprotected sex, I won't.
Now, For the reasons why:
1. The OB-Gyn saying that due to your medical condition(I presume it is PCOS-Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome), you couldn't have children. My family thought that I would genetically pass something on, because of my own, severe medical history. But, It was my (ex)wife that passed the problems on. My (ex)wife n' her parents lied about there being a problem with my (ex)wife.
2. I thank God, you refuse to get an abortion.
3. I thank you for reaching out, in detail and, not with 'What do I do'.
4. I thank you for going to college. I know you will have to take a semester off, to have the baby. But, With your positive mental attitude about your situation, I see you graduating Magna *** Laude or, Summa *** Laude.
5. I included the link to the specific page, at Bethany Christian Services, for parenting. They should be able to give you some financial ideas.
That's so sad that your parents and boyfriend acted like that! Do you think maybe your parents are just a little shocked right now but will get over it and decide to help you out? I think it's great that you have such a good attitude about the baby and that you see it as a miracle even though it's not coming at the best time. The whole miracle thing is actually really touching and almost made me cry (I'm PMSing lol) =). You're doing the right thing and being very mature about everything and I applaud you for it. You should be able to get WIC to help buy formula and stuff for your baby. Do you think it's possible that you could find a job that paid more than minimum wage? If you have good qualifications (experience with kids, CPR and First Aid certification, etc.) you can make pretty good money as a nanny/babysitter. If you found the right family they might also let you bring your baby with you so you could work without having to pay for childcare. It also helps if you're majoring in education or nursing or something like that because parents like to hire babysitters in those fields. I'm a nursing student and depending on the family, I make around $12 - $15 an hour babysitting/nannying. In my state minimum wage is $8 so it's obviously better than McDonald's lol. If you're interested in doing something like that you can just send me a message if you want and I'll give you more details on how to find the best babysitting jobs =). I really love helping people so let me know if there's anything I can do! (Besides giving you a million dollars lol) That's why I'm becoming a nurse so I can help people =) I feel like I'm rambling so I'm going to stop now, but I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out for you! Keep your positive attitude!
First of all, let me say I am very disappointed in you, you were so close to not being a pregnant teen...that is all I will say in regards to my disapproval of teen pregnancy, since it does seem you need a lot of help.
First of all, there's this thing you can do, do you have a car? If so, there are companies out there that will pay you to put their ads on your car, they usually pay 400-600 $ a month, it's not very much, but it helps, you can look in on that.
Second of all, once the baby is born, have a blood test, and make your ex pay some child support! It takes 2 to tango, and he carries as much responsibility as you.
Another thing, I don't know what university you're going to, but try going to a community college the first two years, they are so much more cheap than four year universities, and most of them have daycare. General Ed is the same everywhere, as as long as you transfer to a 4 yr and get your BA or BS there, it won't matter much. You can save up a little in the meantime for when you transfer to a 4 yr.
This much I will tell you, it will be a bi^ch getting through college, but it's doable.
YOU CAN DO IT! Not saying it wont be hard, but keeping a positive attitude and doing what ever it takes to care for you and your baby, you will be fine. Take it day by day. Enjoy every minute of it. As for your parents, they should be ashamed of there selves for not sticking by your side. That is their grand-baby and you are their daughter. As for the boyfriend, let him figure it out. He will be the one who misses out. Hopefully every one involved will come around. If not, you will be just fine. I did it, so can you. I had no money, no job and not even in school. I got a job, put myself thru college and found a good man who loves my son as much as i do!
I'm not a teen mother or a mother, but I'd like to try and help.
Even though it might not be the best time to have a baby, if you have problems conceiving then maybe it is for the best that you keep this baby as it could be your only one. My mum said to the same thing to me if I had a child now because it could be the only child I ever have and she wouldn't want her grandchild adopted.
With the job issue, you should have more options because you're over 16. Just look around for things and ask small, family owned businesses as they are more likely to employ you as I found.
Couldn't you go to some sort of teen mothers group or a parenting support group? I'm sure they'll be able to help you as well as give you some more advice. Good luck x
you remind me of me. My mom disowned me also. The only person I had was my aunt thanks goodness. Daddy is round to help with our boys tho. Keep your baby and just try your best. There is hope and love out there for you and your baby. Look in the phone book at see if there is any help out there for young moms. I know a lot here in oregon. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope your mom will come round. Mine still hasn't but I wish you the best. She kicked me out at age 15. If you have any ? you can ask me.
Hey ! Im not a teen mother but I am also seventeen. I'm like SO proud of you for not choosing abortion, I hate when teenagers use abortion as birth control, thats not what its there for. I totally support your decision to keep the baby and I wish you luck, as for financial support, Im not quite sure where you live so Im not sure about the options. Here we have a type of... I dont even know how to explain it, most people call it a baby bonus, its a check you get from the government every month to help support yourself and your baby. As for the father, even if he doesnt have a job, he still may have to pay you child support so long as you can prove the baby is his.
I wish you and your baby luck! If you need more encouragement feel free to get in touch with me!
Goodluck!
Puro Amor,
Lacey (:
im so sorry about your parents and your boyfriend (he sounds like an ***) im also sorry about your unfortunate situation but you are right, your baby is a miricle and getting a abortion would be wrong. there are support groups of girls like you that you can join. the best thing to get at this moment in time is support.
now, before i tell you this,remember,what ever you want to happen is YOUR dissision and make sure to choose the path that you think is right. i am just giving you an option to think about. it is possible that you can try an open adoption. wich is were you have option to choose the parents you want to adopt your baby and contact them durring the pregnancy and become close with them. then after the ababy is born they will adopt him/her but you still get to be a part of her life (like an aunt or a sister). somtimes this is the best choice for the baby's best intrest because it is harder than you can ever emagine for both the baby and the mother in times like htis ,and babies that grow up in broken homes usually become depressed and so does the mother.
but this is an extremely hard dicisoin to make and you should leave it up to a random girl on ';yahoo answers'; follow your heart and do what you think is right
Ouch. Honey, I'm sorry, but you're kinda screwed...figuratively speaking. You need to reconsider abortion or adoption. Your child will not have a good life with you. It's selfish of you to keep it.
Maybe your parents will come around. Do you know your boyfriends' parents? Maybe they'll help.
You're asking this in the ADOLESCENTS section? may I remind you that adolescents are supposed to be like in between childhood and adulthood. so some of us are still on the kid side! what tips do you need? remember to change the diapers?
and may i ask why you still call him your boyfriend...?
oh yeah, and congrats. find a person who will actually care for the kid as a fatherly figure. there are actually guys that would do that.
edit:you guys know i'm right. sometimes the truth hurts. i'm not saying she is dumb for having sex, (well, w/o protection) but anyways, i'm just saying, why the adolscents section. i haven't had a kid so i can't exactly provide too much info.
I am not going to have an abortion, it is not and will never be an option. And I have medical problems that make it practically impossible to get pregnant (which is how I got pregnant because we didn't use any protection because my OB/GYN said I would never be able to conceive). So I refuse to give my child up for adoption because he or she maybe the only child I ever have, the baby may have come at a bad time but he/she is a miracle!
I have just started college and don't want to drop out. Of course I will have to take spring semester off when I have my baby but then I want to go right back. I have a minimum wage part time job but I know that wont be enough to take care of my baby. I need help but don't have anyone. I would love to hear some advice from other mothers, exspecaly teen mothers or former teen mothers. I need both emotional encouragement and financial advice.
Thanks in advance!Advice for soon to be teen mother?
Don't even listen to that stupid ***** Barbq. She isn't the brightest bulb in the box. I think you can do this, because you are willing to and I can tell you already love your baby. The best thing for a baby is his mother. You may however have to hold of school for another year after the baby comes just to get yourself settled. Talk to your college counselor she can help you. She will probably get you a social worker, don't worry their are a lot of government programs out their for you. And a lot of colleges offer family housing. You can get student loans to pay for your education and family housing, and a meal plan. The government will help with the babies needs. I think it is your best bet to stay in school. And you go girl! It is teens like yourself how make me proud are country has government assistance programs.Advice for soon to be teen mother?
Wow I can relate. Except I'm younger. I'm 15 and 12 weeks. The boyfriend dumped me a week after we did what HE wantedto do. He used me really bad. He knew the possiblity of me getting pregnant and how it would change his life and he just couldn't havethat. So I was on my own. Almost 3 months later I
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DI guess you better find a way to stay in school. You have NO idea how POOR you are going be on Public Assistance. NO money at all for anything other than rent and diapers.
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He isn't going to be involved? Take him to court. Get a paternity test and if the baby is his he will HAVE to pay child support. What a jerk.
Help your parents understand your situation.
You can do it. It will be hard but it's worth it for you %26amp; your baby.
I know that wasn't a lot but... w/e
Well just pray for answers and talk to people who have already experianced it. Good luck honey.
That's a tough situation.
I'm a teen mom! I had all of the support of my family, boyfriend and his family so my situation is alot easier.
First of all, your life IS NOT SCREWED UP, its just an extra addition to your life!! An overwhelming exciting experience in your life. You should talk to your bf's family and tell them. Do you have any other relatives that might help you??
and You won't drop out of college, girls who drop out are just lazyy.
DON'T EVER GIVE UP FOR YOUR CHILD, CUZ ONCE YOU SEE HIM/HER, ALL YOU WANT IS THE BEST FOR HIM/HER. He/she will keep you motivated to do what is best.
Right now my son is sleeping next to me, i'm just watching him. Its tough, but you can get through.
Goodluck %26lt;333
While your sad story seemingly has you backed into a corner and, I could chastise for having unprotected sex, I won't.
Now, For the reasons why:
1. The OB-Gyn saying that due to your medical condition(I presume it is PCOS-Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome), you couldn't have children. My family thought that I would genetically pass something on, because of my own, severe medical history. But, It was my (ex)wife that passed the problems on. My (ex)wife n' her parents lied about there being a problem with my (ex)wife.
2. I thank God, you refuse to get an abortion.
3. I thank you for reaching out, in detail and, not with 'What do I do'.
4. I thank you for going to college. I know you will have to take a semester off, to have the baby. But, With your positive mental attitude about your situation, I see you graduating Magna *** Laude or, Summa *** Laude.
5. I included the link to the specific page, at Bethany Christian Services, for parenting. They should be able to give you some financial ideas.
That's so sad that your parents and boyfriend acted like that! Do you think maybe your parents are just a little shocked right now but will get over it and decide to help you out? I think it's great that you have such a good attitude about the baby and that you see it as a miracle even though it's not coming at the best time. The whole miracle thing is actually really touching and almost made me cry (I'm PMSing lol) =). You're doing the right thing and being very mature about everything and I applaud you for it. You should be able to get WIC to help buy formula and stuff for your baby. Do you think it's possible that you could find a job that paid more than minimum wage? If you have good qualifications (experience with kids, CPR and First Aid certification, etc.) you can make pretty good money as a nanny/babysitter. If you found the right family they might also let you bring your baby with you so you could work without having to pay for childcare. It also helps if you're majoring in education or nursing or something like that because parents like to hire babysitters in those fields. I'm a nursing student and depending on the family, I make around $12 - $15 an hour babysitting/nannying. In my state minimum wage is $8 so it's obviously better than McDonald's lol. If you're interested in doing something like that you can just send me a message if you want and I'll give you more details on how to find the best babysitting jobs =). I really love helping people so let me know if there's anything I can do! (Besides giving you a million dollars lol) That's why I'm becoming a nurse so I can help people =) I feel like I'm rambling so I'm going to stop now, but I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out for you! Keep your positive attitude!
First of all, let me say I am very disappointed in you, you were so close to not being a pregnant teen...that is all I will say in regards to my disapproval of teen pregnancy, since it does seem you need a lot of help.
First of all, there's this thing you can do, do you have a car? If so, there are companies out there that will pay you to put their ads on your car, they usually pay 400-600 $ a month, it's not very much, but it helps, you can look in on that.
Second of all, once the baby is born, have a blood test, and make your ex pay some child support! It takes 2 to tango, and he carries as much responsibility as you.
Another thing, I don't know what university you're going to, but try going to a community college the first two years, they are so much more cheap than four year universities, and most of them have daycare. General Ed is the same everywhere, as as long as you transfer to a 4 yr and get your BA or BS there, it won't matter much. You can save up a little in the meantime for when you transfer to a 4 yr.
This much I will tell you, it will be a bi^ch getting through college, but it's doable.
YOU CAN DO IT! Not saying it wont be hard, but keeping a positive attitude and doing what ever it takes to care for you and your baby, you will be fine. Take it day by day. Enjoy every minute of it. As for your parents, they should be ashamed of there selves for not sticking by your side. That is their grand-baby and you are their daughter. As for the boyfriend, let him figure it out. He will be the one who misses out. Hopefully every one involved will come around. If not, you will be just fine. I did it, so can you. I had no money, no job and not even in school. I got a job, put myself thru college and found a good man who loves my son as much as i do!
I'm not a teen mother or a mother, but I'd like to try and help.
Even though it might not be the best time to have a baby, if you have problems conceiving then maybe it is for the best that you keep this baby as it could be your only one. My mum said to the same thing to me if I had a child now because it could be the only child I ever have and she wouldn't want her grandchild adopted.
With the job issue, you should have more options because you're over 16. Just look around for things and ask small, family owned businesses as they are more likely to employ you as I found.
Couldn't you go to some sort of teen mothers group or a parenting support group? I'm sure they'll be able to help you as well as give you some more advice. Good luck x
you remind me of me. My mom disowned me also. The only person I had was my aunt thanks goodness. Daddy is round to help with our boys tho. Keep your baby and just try your best. There is hope and love out there for you and your baby. Look in the phone book at see if there is any help out there for young moms. I know a lot here in oregon. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope your mom will come round. Mine still hasn't but I wish you the best. She kicked me out at age 15. If you have any ? you can ask me.
Hey ! Im not a teen mother but I am also seventeen. I'm like SO proud of you for not choosing abortion, I hate when teenagers use abortion as birth control, thats not what its there for. I totally support your decision to keep the baby and I wish you luck, as for financial support, Im not quite sure where you live so Im not sure about the options. Here we have a type of... I dont even know how to explain it, most people call it a baby bonus, its a check you get from the government every month to help support yourself and your baby. As for the father, even if he doesnt have a job, he still may have to pay you child support so long as you can prove the baby is his.
I wish you and your baby luck! If you need more encouragement feel free to get in touch with me!
Goodluck!
Puro Amor,
Lacey (:
im so sorry about your parents and your boyfriend (he sounds like an ***) im also sorry about your unfortunate situation but you are right, your baby is a miricle and getting a abortion would be wrong. there are support groups of girls like you that you can join. the best thing to get at this moment in time is support.
now, before i tell you this,remember,what ever you want to happen is YOUR dissision and make sure to choose the path that you think is right. i am just giving you an option to think about. it is possible that you can try an open adoption. wich is were you have option to choose the parents you want to adopt your baby and contact them durring the pregnancy and become close with them. then after the ababy is born they will adopt him/her but you still get to be a part of her life (like an aunt or a sister). somtimes this is the best choice for the baby's best intrest because it is harder than you can ever emagine for both the baby and the mother in times like htis ,and babies that grow up in broken homes usually become depressed and so does the mother.
but this is an extremely hard dicisoin to make and you should leave it up to a random girl on ';yahoo answers'; follow your heart and do what you think is right
Ouch. Honey, I'm sorry, but you're kinda screwed...figuratively speaking. You need to reconsider abortion or adoption. Your child will not have a good life with you. It's selfish of you to keep it.
Maybe your parents will come around. Do you know your boyfriends' parents? Maybe they'll help.
You're asking this in the ADOLESCENTS section? may I remind you that adolescents are supposed to be like in between childhood and adulthood. so some of us are still on the kid side! what tips do you need? remember to change the diapers?
and may i ask why you still call him your boyfriend...?
oh yeah, and congrats. find a person who will actually care for the kid as a fatherly figure. there are actually guys that would do that.
edit:you guys know i'm right. sometimes the truth hurts. i'm not saying she is dumb for having sex, (well, w/o protection) but anyways, i'm just saying, why the adolscents section. i haven't had a kid so i can't exactly provide too much info.
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