Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?

so this morning i called my mom because i needed my birth certificate/social security card %26amp; i was in a hurry to get to the dmv for my permit test %26amp; she told me to look in this one place %26amp; it wasnt there and she was like oh actually it might be in my room %26amp; i got angry(because she plays these games all the time %26amp; likes to hide things from me) %26amp; threw the phone at the wall and it left a little gash and the paint is chipping %26amp; now i feel really bad because she just bought this house %26amp; had it painted %26amp; i don tknow,i couldnt control my anger i usually dont get mad like this, only a couple of times before and its always with her..the last time it was really bad and i hit her a couple of times(%26amp; believe me i felt horrible)%26amp; after that time i told her to make me an appointment for a counselor but she never did..but maybe if she had this wouldnt have happened..what should i do?i know apoligizing isnt going to do much..Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
By asking the question and by everything you said, it sounds like you're on the right track. By wanting to control your anger, you will make yourself do it. You can't always be in 100% control of your emotions. Sometimes circumstances get so overwhelming, especially when there's pressure or hurry, that you lose it. Here's a tip: when you feel yourself starting to lose it, stop. Just stop thinking and feeling everything and breathe. Yeah, it's that simple. Just breathe in and out slowly and deeply and relax and by the time you do that for a few minutes, your mind will clear, your heart will setlle down, and THEN you can decide how to react appropriately to your situation. It's not impossible. And don't feel guilty. You're not a perfect machine. You're a being human.Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
I think it was very smart of you to ask for help. I think you should sit down and once again explain to your Mom that you have some issues with anger. I find it hard to believe that she didn't figure this out when you hit her!! Which, incidentally, is absolutely never the right thing to do. If your Mom does not get some help for you I suggest you go to your school counselor and explain your need for help. Believe me you need to do this for yourself...for the rest of your life. You need to be able to make the right choices. Good luck honey!
Be honest, and admit your mistake before she finds out about it on her own. Part of being a mature adult is - admitting your mistakes, apologizing sincerely, and making amends. Don't blame others for your actions/decisions; even if others are to blame, focus on admitting and fixing YOUR fault.





Tell your mom what happened, apologize, and offer to pay to fix the damage with your own allowance, and offer your own punishment - you can't drive until the hole is fixed (a little spackle and paint from the hardware store should do the trick). Then ask your mom to make an appointment for you with the counselor, and keep reminding her until she does, or make the call yourself.
you have to take responsibility for your behavior... I am sure your mom will be alright if you talk to her about it.. of course you should fix the wall... you need to think before you react.. take a deep breathe and you would not have thrown the phone... fix the wall and give your mom a hug............
this is a common misconception that people have.





';they made me mad';





when ever you get angry you hav a choice on how you will act. nobody made you throw the phone, you chose to do it.





if you know a person has a certain type of behavior that upsets you. be prepared for it. and make better choices on how you re-act.





as for the wall. it would go a long way if you offered to repair it
Oh girl, you need to own what you did and place the blame right where it belongs....on you. She doesn't hide things, she wasn't home, I'd have to have my daughter look in several places. And to hit your mother!!! that's beyond low. Does she hit you? Because hitting each other is abuse. You need to go to anger management. You need to sit with her when you are both calm and admit that you have a problem and want help. Have her make a agreement to find you some anger management counseling. She probably is concerned because of the money, but you can't continue to do this. The rest of the world would not tolerate you. Best of Luck to you, please seek help.
buy her a really good gift that she always wanted.