Hey ppls, I'm really excited for the NAM pageant, have all of my fees paid up, got my dress and interview suit, and am positive I'll blow the judges away with my personal introduction! Any advice you fellow National American Miss pageant enterers have for me? ALL comments are welcome! Thanks a million!Any advice for the jr. teen division of National American Miss pageant?
everyone thinks its like sum other BEAUTY pageant, ITS NOT its the exact oppisite its to build selth confidence and to make girls of all sizes feel great about themselfs. my advice is to SMILE! ALOT. be yourself, have fun, make friends and DONT WORRY!
the way 2 blow thee judges away with your intro is instead of saying sumthing like hi im bla bla bla from bla bla bla and i want 2 be bla bla bla say sumthing like hi, as future bla bla bla i would like to bla bla bla by doing bla blabla i want to be namiss jr.teen because bla bla bla, from bla bla bla, bla bla bla im blablabla!Any advice for the jr. teen division of National American Miss pageant?
Are you the same person who was on here asking if you should do NAM in the first place? If that was you, don't get upset if some other ';undeserving'; girl wins, these pageants aren't that important anyway. Look at all of the pageant winners getting in trouble these days. There are certain things you can gain from this experience (learning how to lose, confidence, public speaking, getting along with others, etc) but you can also learn those things in other, less superficial and less expensive ways. If the NAM thing doesn't work out, try sports or something else. Good luck.
My advice is don't do it. I'm sure you're much better than that pageant would allow you to be.
dont take yourself so seriously. how old are you? like 12. go out and have fun make a mess of your clothes. be crazy.
Always smile no matter where you are. The judges are everywhere. Be prepared beacuse you are going to be miles aways form home and most importantly have fun! YOu made it all the way to Nationals! Congrats! Try visting the New NAM Forum!
Good Luck!!!
I think these co called ';Miss Pageant'; this day and age 2007 is degrading for woman. There little Barbie doll images. Having to display one self like this. Pure vulgarity.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
so this morning i called my mom because i needed my birth certificate/social security card %26amp; i was in a hurry to get to the dmv for my permit test %26amp; she told me to look in this one place %26amp; it wasnt there and she was like oh actually it might be in my room %26amp; i got angry(because she plays these games all the time %26amp; likes to hide things from me) %26amp; threw the phone at the wall and it left a little gash and the paint is chipping %26amp; now i feel really bad because she just bought this house %26amp; had it painted %26amp; i don tknow,i couldnt control my anger i usually dont get mad like this, only a couple of times before and its always with her..the last time it was really bad and i hit her a couple of times(%26amp; believe me i felt horrible)%26amp; after that time i told her to make me an appointment for a counselor but she never did..but maybe if she had this wouldnt have happened..what should i do?i know apoligizing isnt going to do much..Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
By asking the question and by everything you said, it sounds like you're on the right track. By wanting to control your anger, you will make yourself do it. You can't always be in 100% control of your emotions. Sometimes circumstances get so overwhelming, especially when there's pressure or hurry, that you lose it. Here's a tip: when you feel yourself starting to lose it, stop. Just stop thinking and feeling everything and breathe. Yeah, it's that simple. Just breathe in and out slowly and deeply and relax and by the time you do that for a few minutes, your mind will clear, your heart will setlle down, and THEN you can decide how to react appropriately to your situation. It's not impossible. And don't feel guilty. You're not a perfect machine. You're a being human.Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
I think it was very smart of you to ask for help. I think you should sit down and once again explain to your Mom that you have some issues with anger. I find it hard to believe that she didn't figure this out when you hit her!! Which, incidentally, is absolutely never the right thing to do. If your Mom does not get some help for you I suggest you go to your school counselor and explain your need for help. Believe me you need to do this for yourself...for the rest of your life. You need to be able to make the right choices. Good luck honey!
Be honest, and admit your mistake before she finds out about it on her own. Part of being a mature adult is - admitting your mistakes, apologizing sincerely, and making amends. Don't blame others for your actions/decisions; even if others are to blame, focus on admitting and fixing YOUR fault.
Tell your mom what happened, apologize, and offer to pay to fix the damage with your own allowance, and offer your own punishment - you can't drive until the hole is fixed (a little spackle and paint from the hardware store should do the trick). Then ask your mom to make an appointment for you with the counselor, and keep reminding her until she does, or make the call yourself.
you have to take responsibility for your behavior... I am sure your mom will be alright if you talk to her about it.. of course you should fix the wall... you need to think before you react.. take a deep breathe and you would not have thrown the phone... fix the wall and give your mom a hug............
this is a common misconception that people have.
';they made me mad';
when ever you get angry you hav a choice on how you will act. nobody made you throw the phone, you chose to do it.
if you know a person has a certain type of behavior that upsets you. be prepared for it. and make better choices on how you re-act.
as for the wall. it would go a long way if you offered to repair it
Oh girl, you need to own what you did and place the blame right where it belongs....on you. She doesn't hide things, she wasn't home, I'd have to have my daughter look in several places. And to hit your mother!!! that's beyond low. Does she hit you? Because hitting each other is abuse. You need to go to anger management. You need to sit with her when you are both calm and admit that you have a problem and want help. Have her make a agreement to find you some anger management counseling. She probably is concerned because of the money, but you can't continue to do this. The rest of the world would not tolerate you. Best of Luck to you, please seek help.
buy her a really good gift that she always wanted.
By asking the question and by everything you said, it sounds like you're on the right track. By wanting to control your anger, you will make yourself do it. You can't always be in 100% control of your emotions. Sometimes circumstances get so overwhelming, especially when there's pressure or hurry, that you lose it. Here's a tip: when you feel yourself starting to lose it, stop. Just stop thinking and feeling everything and breathe. Yeah, it's that simple. Just breathe in and out slowly and deeply and relax and by the time you do that for a few minutes, your mind will clear, your heart will setlle down, and THEN you can decide how to react appropriately to your situation. It's not impossible. And don't feel guilty. You're not a perfect machine. You're a being human.Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
I think it was very smart of you to ask for help. I think you should sit down and once again explain to your Mom that you have some issues with anger. I find it hard to believe that she didn't figure this out when you hit her!! Which, incidentally, is absolutely never the right thing to do. If your Mom does not get some help for you I suggest you go to your school counselor and explain your need for help. Believe me you need to do this for yourself...for the rest of your life. You need to be able to make the right choices. Good luck honey!
Be honest, and admit your mistake before she finds out about it on her own. Part of being a mature adult is - admitting your mistakes, apologizing sincerely, and making amends. Don't blame others for your actions/decisions; even if others are to blame, focus on admitting and fixing YOUR fault.
Tell your mom what happened, apologize, and offer to pay to fix the damage with your own allowance, and offer your own punishment - you can't drive until the hole is fixed (a little spackle and paint from the hardware store should do the trick). Then ask your mom to make an appointment for you with the counselor, and keep reminding her until she does, or make the call yourself.
you have to take responsibility for your behavior... I am sure your mom will be alright if you talk to her about it.. of course you should fix the wall... you need to think before you react.. take a deep breathe and you would not have thrown the phone... fix the wall and give your mom a hug............
this is a common misconception that people have.
';they made me mad';
when ever you get angry you hav a choice on how you will act. nobody made you throw the phone, you chose to do it.
if you know a person has a certain type of behavior that upsets you. be prepared for it. and make better choices on how you re-act.
as for the wall. it would go a long way if you offered to repair it
Oh girl, you need to own what you did and place the blame right where it belongs....on you. She doesn't hide things, she wasn't home, I'd have to have my daughter look in several places. And to hit your mother!!! that's beyond low. Does she hit you? Because hitting each other is abuse. You need to go to anger management. You need to sit with her when you are both calm and admit that you have a problem and want help. Have her make a agreement to find you some anger management counseling. She probably is concerned because of the money, but you can't continue to do this. The rest of the world would not tolerate you. Best of Luck to you, please seek help.
buy her a really good gift that she always wanted.
Pregnancy Advice...for a teen?
Ok so need some advice...
So me and my bf have been dating for a while, and before we started dating we talked for quite a long time. I think we have a good thing going.
Well about a week ago we were talking and he mentioned how much he would love to have a kid right now. (btw, im 17 and he is 19.) it kinda freaked me out cuz usually the girl would say that and the guy leaves asap.
but i started thinking...what if we did? like it wouldnt be a mistake and we would plan it out right...ino im young but that doesnt matter to me. my bf has a good job and he makes alot for his age...i need some advice.
i dont want advice that im to young...i need advice to like what i should do while planning...someone to help me with some advice to get through successfully...
thank youPregnancy Advice...for a teen?
While planning, I would say graduate from school, talk about marriage and commitment with your boyfriend, get into a place of your own with him (not with parents), research all the costs of a baby - including your medical costs, daycare, healthcare and other big expenses - and realistically, harshly, look at your own income.
He may make a lot for his age, but that doesn't mean it will necessarily be enough to support a girlfriend/wife and baby.
And also seriously think about life plans. Do you want a college degree now, eventually? Does he?
Life doesn't have to be absolutely perfect and at a certain age to have kids, but people should actually try to be ready - financially, emotionally, and in a relationship - for it.Pregnancy Advice...for a teen?
i'm not sure what kind of advice your looking for. i agree with you, your a little young yet. why not wait a year or so. make sure you have a stable place to live thats not with your parents. maybe you should get a job and learn to support yourself for a bit also, its a great learning experience.
I'm not 100% sure what you are asking.. but if you really want to have a baby, plan it very carefully, over time. Also, are there certain months you wouldn't like to have a baby (December because it's cold, ____ beacuse your bithday is that month.) Being pregant isn't too hard, just read about it and avoid things you shouldn't have (lots of coffee, medicines, ect) and get what you should have, (fruits, veggies, ect.) Build up on folic acid for a few onths now, that is VERY important in the development of a baby, I'd start taking prenantal vitamins now, to get your body ready. Also, I'm not trying to tell you you are too young or what not, but if you have not yet graduated, I think you should wait until then, it's not an age thing, just that stress is bad for a baby and I know how stressful school can be. If you get more specific, I'd be happy to help more.
hello.... well im a teen mom also i got pregnant when i was 17 and delivered my baby at 18.what can i say about teenage pregnancy is that is beautiful i mean you feel something so special and great..but enough with that talk. having a baby can also be really how can i say this so it wont sound mean but it sometimes gets annoying? sorry.. but my advice no one is ready to be a mom theres no instructions for it.. but if some way you think that hes ready for a baby and so are you then i say go for it.it doesnt mean if your stable or not..god only knows when your ready to have a baby so get ready it might be sooner than you expected!! sorry for the long story...
okay if you really want to have a family with this guy then he has to commit with you and the child. also find a place for you and him so the child as a place to live without your parent's or his nagging on you. threed make sure you have a good dr to help you and also pay for the bills for the dr and the hospital. it will be alot of money believe i had to deal with it when i was 19. also make sure you are eating healthy diet and both of you are not smoking or drinking that well hurt both of you and your little baby. just make sure you both are ready and think you both can handle a child and you trying to finish school. well good luck sweetie.. need anything else askla mer
So me and my bf have been dating for a while, and before we started dating we talked for quite a long time. I think we have a good thing going.
Well about a week ago we were talking and he mentioned how much he would love to have a kid right now. (btw, im 17 and he is 19.) it kinda freaked me out cuz usually the girl would say that and the guy leaves asap.
but i started thinking...what if we did? like it wouldnt be a mistake and we would plan it out right...ino im young but that doesnt matter to me. my bf has a good job and he makes alot for his age...i need some advice.
i dont want advice that im to young...i need advice to like what i should do while planning...someone to help me with some advice to get through successfully...
thank youPregnancy Advice...for a teen?
While planning, I would say graduate from school, talk about marriage and commitment with your boyfriend, get into a place of your own with him (not with parents), research all the costs of a baby - including your medical costs, daycare, healthcare and other big expenses - and realistically, harshly, look at your own income.
He may make a lot for his age, but that doesn't mean it will necessarily be enough to support a girlfriend/wife and baby.
And also seriously think about life plans. Do you want a college degree now, eventually? Does he?
Life doesn't have to be absolutely perfect and at a certain age to have kids, but people should actually try to be ready - financially, emotionally, and in a relationship - for it.Pregnancy Advice...for a teen?
i'm not sure what kind of advice your looking for. i agree with you, your a little young yet. why not wait a year or so. make sure you have a stable place to live thats not with your parents. maybe you should get a job and learn to support yourself for a bit also, its a great learning experience.
I'm not 100% sure what you are asking.. but if you really want to have a baby, plan it very carefully, over time. Also, are there certain months you wouldn't like to have a baby (December because it's cold, ____ beacuse your bithday is that month.) Being pregant isn't too hard, just read about it and avoid things you shouldn't have (lots of coffee, medicines, ect) and get what you should have, (fruits, veggies, ect.) Build up on folic acid for a few onths now, that is VERY important in the development of a baby, I'd start taking prenantal vitamins now, to get your body ready. Also, I'm not trying to tell you you are too young or what not, but if you have not yet graduated, I think you should wait until then, it's not an age thing, just that stress is bad for a baby and I know how stressful school can be. If you get more specific, I'd be happy to help more.
hello.... well im a teen mom also i got pregnant when i was 17 and delivered my baby at 18.what can i say about teenage pregnancy is that is beautiful i mean you feel something so special and great..but enough with that talk. having a baby can also be really how can i say this so it wont sound mean but it sometimes gets annoying? sorry.. but my advice no one is ready to be a mom theres no instructions for it.. but if some way you think that hes ready for a baby and so are you then i say go for it.it doesnt mean if your stable or not..god only knows when your ready to have a baby so get ready it might be sooner than you expected!! sorry for the long story...
okay if you really want to have a family with this guy then he has to commit with you and the child. also find a place for you and him so the child as a place to live without your parent's or his nagging on you. threed make sure you have a good dr to help you and also pay for the bills for the dr and the hospital. it will be alot of money believe i had to deal with it when i was 19. also make sure you are eating healthy diet and both of you are not smoking or drinking that well hurt both of you and your little baby. just make sure you both are ready and think you both can handle a child and you trying to finish school. well good luck sweetie.. need anything else ask
Fashion advice for clueless teen!?
ok i am a girl that is pretty clueless when it comes to clothes, usually i throw on a band tee, some converse, and some blue jeans and call it an outfit... but i do that everyday.
i want to change it up some, you know, add some variety?
I like to dress girly sometimes, as well, just not overly girly, with pink frilly things and such.
I have a hard time finding cute dress shirts that actually fit because...
1) I am pretty tall, about 5'8 1/2';, so they always come up a little short
2) My shoulders are very wide, and even when i find jackets i like, they wont fit because of how wide my shoulders are... they're so wide that when i came home from Six Flags the other day, i had broken blood vessels on both should blades from where the ride kept hitting my shoulders
and
3) I'll be honest, im chubby, but not fat...
i get so angry because i see short and really fat girls who can wear things like hollister, but when i try it on, no WAY will it fit... im too tall...
anyone got any advice??Fashion advice for clueless teen!?
i know some places like american eagle, hollister, abercombie, and aeropostal have some shirts that are made longer and you may have to go up a size to get in long enough and it still look okay! try baby doll top that flare out (it will make you look less chubby) or try shirts that tie in the back (then you should get a bigger size for length and tie it tighter for a better fit!) and these shirts would make a look more girly but not too girly and be fine paired with jeans and converse! (:Fashion advice for clueless teen!?
i hear you. i usually just wear t-shirts and jeans most of the time. but when i go out i like to look a bit cuter so i usually put on a pretty peasant top (something that is cinched under the chest and flares out to cover up my round tummy). you could also try a mini dress and leggings or jeans ( i think that looks really cute), or even putting a vest or sweater over a t-shirt/tank top.
hope this gives you some ideas =]
i want to change it up some, you know, add some variety?
I like to dress girly sometimes, as well, just not overly girly, with pink frilly things and such.
I have a hard time finding cute dress shirts that actually fit because...
1) I am pretty tall, about 5'8 1/2';, so they always come up a little short
2) My shoulders are very wide, and even when i find jackets i like, they wont fit because of how wide my shoulders are... they're so wide that when i came home from Six Flags the other day, i had broken blood vessels on both should blades from where the ride kept hitting my shoulders
and
3) I'll be honest, im chubby, but not fat...
i get so angry because i see short and really fat girls who can wear things like hollister, but when i try it on, no WAY will it fit... im too tall...
anyone got any advice??Fashion advice for clueless teen!?
i know some places like american eagle, hollister, abercombie, and aeropostal have some shirts that are made longer and you may have to go up a size to get in long enough and it still look okay! try baby doll top that flare out (it will make you look less chubby) or try shirts that tie in the back (then you should get a bigger size for length and tie it tighter for a better fit!) and these shirts would make a look more girly but not too girly and be fine paired with jeans and converse! (:Fashion advice for clueless teen!?
i hear you. i usually just wear t-shirts and jeans most of the time. but when i go out i like to look a bit cuter so i usually put on a pretty peasant top (something that is cinched under the chest and flares out to cover up my round tummy). you could also try a mini dress and leggings or jeans ( i think that looks really cute), or even putting a vest or sweater over a t-shirt/tank top.
hope this gives you some ideas =]
Any advice for a teen thinking about killing themselves?
okay so i know this person she has a good family but with all teens she does get in a lot of fights with her mom. she thinks that her mom is old fashion and doesnt understand her and her problems. she feels like she has no one except for her almost lover. a boy who is a little older but totally understands her. he really really likes her and she really really likes him. and thats one of the only things keeping her alive is knowing that if she did kill herself then it would break his heart and she cant bare to think of that but if her mom keeps doing what she is doing im afraid he will not be the enough from stoping her. i need to know what i can do help pleaseAny advice for a teen thinking about killing themselves?
wow that's deep and I know exactly how she feels but then I met God.. the only man(person) who (i thought) loved me but come to find out when I met him I met my true mom and dad and all my friends were there more and my life actually got better after my ';suicidal phase'; now imma saved woman that knows how to ';brush off the pain and learn from it'; so let them read this and even though I don't know them I love them dearly and don't want them to leave life without livin it to the fullestAny advice for a teen thinking about killing themselves?
It sounds like your friend is going through some serious depression. It's common for everyone to have trouble shrugging off depression, and we all go through some hard times. However, it sounds like your friend is having difficulty seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. The best thing you can do is try to be there for them. Hear them out and remind them that life wont always suck.
A boy is your soul mate(u think) but you know him better when you live with him or marry him because then you know what really he is. Mother is never enemy of her children . so, love her not him. Because you can find another boyfriend but not another mother.
tell your teacer at school. the one you like or trust.
They will take care of it.
and ask them to not mention your name.
right a anonomous letter and drop it off in the school office.
good grief!!!!! tell her MOM ,counselor or someone ,this person needs help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Okay, so have you thought she may be depressed. Even if she doesn't want to go to a counselor it doesn't matter you need to talk with someone like that with the concern of your friend. When my parent's divorced I got depressed. When my mom started abusing me I kind of went insane. I'm still sort of on the brink, I still have to see her but I'm trying to get better. All I can say is that emotions can drown you, you can stop thinking for yourself and some inner emotion can start drowning you and taking over your once normal self.
Talk you her mother, tell her what she's doing to her own child she may not even know what she's doing. Perhaps talk to the father. If not some school guidence counselor. ANYTHING!!!!
Speaking from my own personal experience, teen years can be extremely rough and can lead to feeling trapped and thoughts of suicide. First and foremost, if your friend is showing serious signs of depression and you are worried, you should urge her to talk to someone. Anyone she feels comfortable talking to; a different family member, a school conselor, even a suicide hotline. Anyone that she may be able to feel open to discuss the root of what is bothering her. Secondly, make her think of other things that make her happy - not just an older boy. Remind her of all of the other things that she has to live for, other family, pets, friends, prom, graduation, college, a wedding, children and so on. If she and her mother do not get along well, she may just not be able to see the light at the end of her tunnel. Remind her of all of the great things that are still yet to come for her in her life. Keep reinforcing the positive! Lastly, if none of these things work, check into your state's laws. In Florida, we have what is called the ';Baker Act'; It is a law that states any person threatening to harm themself or another will spend up to 72 hours in any one of over 100 Florida Department of Children and Family designating recieving facilities. If you need additional help, speak to a close relative, teacher, counselor, etc. I lost my best friend when I was 13 because I didn't recognize the signs or speak up. Don't let fear of your friend being mad at you stop you from doing what you feel is right. Trust me, she probably will be mad, but eventually, she will realize you only did it because you cared. Besides, wouldn't it be better for her to be around to be mad at you than to wish you had said something?
wow that's deep and I know exactly how she feels but then I met God.. the only man(person) who (i thought) loved me but come to find out when I met him I met my true mom and dad and all my friends were there more and my life actually got better after my ';suicidal phase'; now imma saved woman that knows how to ';brush off the pain and learn from it'; so let them read this and even though I don't know them I love them dearly and don't want them to leave life without livin it to the fullestAny advice for a teen thinking about killing themselves?
It sounds like your friend is going through some serious depression. It's common for everyone to have trouble shrugging off depression, and we all go through some hard times. However, it sounds like your friend is having difficulty seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. The best thing you can do is try to be there for them. Hear them out and remind them that life wont always suck.
A boy is your soul mate(u think) but you know him better when you live with him or marry him because then you know what really he is. Mother is never enemy of her children . so, love her not him. Because you can find another boyfriend but not another mother.
tell your teacer at school. the one you like or trust.
They will take care of it.
and ask them to not mention your name.
right a anonomous letter and drop it off in the school office.
good grief!!!!! tell her MOM ,counselor or someone ,this person needs help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Okay, so have you thought she may be depressed. Even if she doesn't want to go to a counselor it doesn't matter you need to talk with someone like that with the concern of your friend. When my parent's divorced I got depressed. When my mom started abusing me I kind of went insane. I'm still sort of on the brink, I still have to see her but I'm trying to get better. All I can say is that emotions can drown you, you can stop thinking for yourself and some inner emotion can start drowning you and taking over your once normal self.
Talk you her mother, tell her what she's doing to her own child she may not even know what she's doing. Perhaps talk to the father. If not some school guidence counselor. ANYTHING!!!!
Speaking from my own personal experience, teen years can be extremely rough and can lead to feeling trapped and thoughts of suicide. First and foremost, if your friend is showing serious signs of depression and you are worried, you should urge her to talk to someone. Anyone she feels comfortable talking to; a different family member, a school conselor, even a suicide hotline. Anyone that she may be able to feel open to discuss the root of what is bothering her. Secondly, make her think of other things that make her happy - not just an older boy. Remind her of all of the other things that she has to live for, other family, pets, friends, prom, graduation, college, a wedding, children and so on. If she and her mother do not get along well, she may just not be able to see the light at the end of her tunnel. Remind her of all of the great things that are still yet to come for her in her life. Keep reinforcing the positive! Lastly, if none of these things work, check into your state's laws. In Florida, we have what is called the ';Baker Act'; It is a law that states any person threatening to harm themself or another will spend up to 72 hours in any one of over 100 Florida Department of Children and Family designating recieving facilities. If you need additional help, speak to a close relative, teacher, counselor, etc. I lost my best friend when I was 13 because I didn't recognize the signs or speak up. Don't let fear of your friend being mad at you stop you from doing what you feel is right. Trust me, she probably will be mad, but eventually, she will realize you only did it because you cared. Besides, wouldn't it be better for her to be around to be mad at you than to wish you had said something?
Any emotion advice for a teen traveling to france for a language program alone?
I'm going on a french immersion program in a couple of days and will be gone for a month. I've never been anywhere without at least a few friends I know. I'm fifteen and have a lot of friends but am not good at making them. It usually takes me a very long time to form friendships. My parents said I could cancel last minute, but the deposit was very expensive and I would feel bad. Also, I want to prepare myself for college. I'm really grateful that I get to go to Paris, but I'm worried I'll be lonely and the other people and I won't get along. Help please; advice, anyone else done anything like this?Any emotion advice for a teen traveling to france for a language program alone?
I've never been on an immersion program, but you should definitely go! it's a great experience, and you may never get the chance to again. if you're going, i assume it's because you're taking French, so brush up on a few common French phrases. On the way, maybe talk to the person you're sitting next to; sometimes they can be quite interesting! When you're there, see how many shopkeepers you can engage in a conversation: about nationality, weather, must-see places, anything. And don't get discouraged. If you go, you are already doing a very hard and confusing thing. 'A' for effort, and all that. Also, if you seem comfortable, people will feel good talking to you and will kindly correct you, if you slip up. That's the whole point--learn how the class you took is actually real life. Be open and curious, and look for things you don't understand, then ask about them. maybe make a point to ask at least 5 questions a day? The French are all very friendly to tourists, even though they sometimes get a bad rap. And don't forget to try a chocolate croissant!! Above all, have fun:)Any emotion advice for a teen traveling to france for a language program alone?
I've never done this before, but I'm very shy myself, and I've always wanted to study abroad.
I would go if I were you. That's a great opportunity. Don't worry about being lonely. Just try to be friendly to others on the trip. On the trip over there, try to talk to somebody who looks nice and ask them about how they feel about going to France. Try to stay in contact with your parents and friends while there (via e-mail, phone, whatever works) because it might help ease the loneliness.
Good luck!
I've never been on an immersion program, but you should definitely go! it's a great experience, and you may never get the chance to again. if you're going, i assume it's because you're taking French, so brush up on a few common French phrases. On the way, maybe talk to the person you're sitting next to; sometimes they can be quite interesting! When you're there, see how many shopkeepers you can engage in a conversation: about nationality, weather, must-see places, anything. And don't get discouraged. If you go, you are already doing a very hard and confusing thing. 'A' for effort, and all that. Also, if you seem comfortable, people will feel good talking to you and will kindly correct you, if you slip up. That's the whole point--learn how the class you took is actually real life. Be open and curious, and look for things you don't understand, then ask about them. maybe make a point to ask at least 5 questions a day? The French are all very friendly to tourists, even though they sometimes get a bad rap. And don't forget to try a chocolate croissant!! Above all, have fun:)Any emotion advice for a teen traveling to france for a language program alone?
I've never done this before, but I'm very shy myself, and I've always wanted to study abroad.
I would go if I were you. That's a great opportunity. Don't worry about being lonely. Just try to be friendly to others on the trip. On the trip over there, try to talk to somebody who looks nice and ask them about how they feel about going to France. Try to stay in contact with your parents and friends while there (via e-mail, phone, whatever works) because it might help ease the loneliness.
Good luck!
Advice for finding teen job?
Hi there! My name is Yobo and I currently reside in Calgary, Alberta. The economy seems to be pretty bad right now, and I find it really hard to find a job. My age is 15, and I am looking for ANY type of job that will let me earn some cash. I tried going to many stores, but it seems all of them are not for hire. Then I tried sending resumes, or following up with a phone call a day afterward, especially to the manager him/herself, and it still seems to not be working. Can someone give me some advice? I will work hard and not give upAdvice for finding teen job?
It is difficult to find work all around but don't give up. You have the right attitude. Unfortunately you are at the age where most businesses probably can't hire you. But think outside the box and expect to have to work hard and do the jobs most people don't want to do or have time to do. I read about a teen who offered to wash windows at local businesses. He asked what they were currently paying, then made an offer for less. The equipment would be fairly reasonable to get started. Bucket, squeegee, rags and probably a ladder. Have you tried Craigslist to look for help wanted posts? How about yard work, small painting projects, pet care like dog walking or pet sitting. If you are good in a certain subject, maybe you could tutor.
Do some research online for ideas. I posted a link that offers a lot of advice and ideas. Consider volunteering as a means of gaining experience as well. Employers like to see that on an application and odds are it will give you the edge you need to get a job over another person.
Good luck!Advice for finding teen job?
You're 15 years old and with the economy the way it is, businesses most likely won't hire you. In a few more years you will find it to be easier. In the meantime you can go to my website at http://www.getmoneyforfree.net for information on how you can earn some money for free online at home. This won't get you rich but it will put some extra money into your pockets.
It is difficult to find work all around but don't give up. You have the right attitude. Unfortunately you are at the age where most businesses probably can't hire you. But think outside the box and expect to have to work hard and do the jobs most people don't want to do or have time to do. I read about a teen who offered to wash windows at local businesses. He asked what they were currently paying, then made an offer for less. The equipment would be fairly reasonable to get started. Bucket, squeegee, rags and probably a ladder. Have you tried Craigslist to look for help wanted posts? How about yard work, small painting projects, pet care like dog walking or pet sitting. If you are good in a certain subject, maybe you could tutor.
Do some research online for ideas. I posted a link that offers a lot of advice and ideas. Consider volunteering as a means of gaining experience as well. Employers like to see that on an application and odds are it will give you the edge you need to get a job over another person.
Good luck!Advice for finding teen job?
You're 15 years old and with the economy the way it is, businesses most likely won't hire you. In a few more years you will find it to be easier. In the meantime you can go to my website at http://www.getmoneyforfree.net for information on how you can earn some money for free online at home. This won't get you rich but it will put some extra money into your pockets.
Advice for a teen starting an editing business around her school?
I'm 16, and I want to have a career as an editor for a publishing house. I'm taking a heavy course load this year and thus do not have time for a job. However, I copy edited a 500pg novel for a teacher last year and got paid rather handsomely, and my friends are always coming to me asking me to glance at their school papers to check for typos. I was thinking that I would combine these into a little business venture where I would charge a set rate per page (probably around $0.50 or so) and copy edit people's school essays for them. I'd make it quite clear that I'd only be checking spelling and grammar, not doing the work for them; I think this would make it okay with school rules and all. I was thinking that I could make some fliers and ask the teachers who like me to hang them up in their classrooms or something, and I could also get publicity on Facebook.
I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me, like if $0.50 is an acceptable rate per page, if anyone has any more publicity ideas, or anything really. I've never really tried to start a business before, so I kind of feel like a fish out of water! Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!Advice for a teen starting an editing business around her school?
I think it's an awesome idea!
Not sure about the price I think it's bit too cheap. BUT to be on the safe side be sure to do your research on how much others charge for the same service. Make sure to charge less than what the others charge but don't sell yourself short by making your prices too low.
Definitely talk to the teachers about it...they could have cool ideas about how to get the word and and also it'll clarify that you're only proofreading NOT doing their work for them. Because as the word gets out, the message could get twisted so clear that up before hand to save trouble in the future.
Other than that, I think it's GREAT! Publicity would do well in the school paper, with fliers, MySpace, your school blog, BUT word-of-mouth will spread faster than anything.
GOOD LUCK!
I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me, like if $0.50 is an acceptable rate per page, if anyone has any more publicity ideas, or anything really. I've never really tried to start a business before, so I kind of feel like a fish out of water! Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!Advice for a teen starting an editing business around her school?
I think it's an awesome idea!
Not sure about the price I think it's bit too cheap. BUT to be on the safe side be sure to do your research on how much others charge for the same service. Make sure to charge less than what the others charge but don't sell yourself short by making your prices too low.
Definitely talk to the teachers about it...they could have cool ideas about how to get the word and and also it'll clarify that you're only proofreading NOT doing their work for them. Because as the word gets out, the message could get twisted so clear that up before hand to save trouble in the future.
Other than that, I think it's GREAT! Publicity would do well in the school paper, with fliers, MySpace, your school blog, BUT word-of-mouth will spread faster than anything.
GOOD LUCK!
Advice for my teen problems please! kinda depressed...?
hey guys, im 15 years old, ok maybe this will sound really stupid, but i am so freaken confuse. i dont know who i am anymore.i am depressed all the time, and i cant take the pressure of school and all my extra classes. im trying really hard to get along with my family ( i dont really do) trying not to lose more friends in school (people is kinda judging with me, i am a little bit shy but they take it as arrogance) trying not to failed (school is really hard, lots of works, lots of subjects) and trying to keep up with ballet, hip hop, and piano, but i think i just cant take it, i need to figure out who i am,i just want to start being happy already. any advice or support?? please someoneAdvice for my teen problems please! kinda depressed...?
this happened to me in the seventh grade... i have learned from it and now am ready to give advice. I was balancing too much on my plate, losing my friends and family, and i had become depressed. I learned that i needed to take one step at a time and everything fell into place. My grades were horrible and over time i had pushed myself and eventually became a better student.You need to take it all in and be able to except everything you have.Things will get easier over time, you just need to know that the people around you are there for and they will love you. If you have anymore questions for me let me knoww.
la mer
this happened to me in the seventh grade... i have learned from it and now am ready to give advice. I was balancing too much on my plate, losing my friends and family, and i had become depressed. I learned that i needed to take one step at a time and everything fell into place. My grades were horrible and over time i had pushed myself and eventually became a better student.You need to take it all in and be able to except everything you have.Things will get easier over time, you just need to know that the people around you are there for and they will love you. If you have anymore questions for me let me knoww.
Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
so this morning i called my mom because i needed my birth certificate/social security card %26amp; i was in a hurry to get to the dmv for my permit test %26amp; she told me to look in this one place %26amp; it wasnt there and she was like oh actually it might be in my room %26amp; i got angry(because she plays these games all the time %26amp; likes to hide things from me) %26amp; threw the phone at the wall and it left a little gash and the paint is chipping %26amp; now i feel really bad because she just bought this house %26amp; had it painted %26amp; i don tknow,i couldnt control my anger i usually dont get mad like this, only a couple of times before and its always with her..the last time it was really bad and i hit her a couple of times(%26amp; believe me i felt horrible)%26amp; after that time i told her to make me an appointment for a counselor but she never did..but maybe if she had this wouldnt have happened..what should i do?i know apoligizing isnt going to do much..Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
One thing you could have done to avoid this altogether was to ask for what you need the night before. That would require some planning on your part but if you are old enough for a driver's license you are old enough to act responsibly. That's one thing.
Hitting back and forth is not for human beings to do. You say there have been problems before and you and your mother both need to see a therapist to work out your anger issues which are immense.
As far as social services being involved, that shows your relationship is already compromised and you both need to work together and separately to straighten that out.
Your mother is the adult and should take the lead in finding help for you both. If she doesn't, you need to ask for help so you don't continue the cycle. Ask at school, talking to your counselor, and follow the advice you are given.
You have done something to be sorry for but you have more issues and it seems as though you may have to work on them through your own strengths, which will be very hard but its your life.
Try to take the high road for yourself and it may help your mom as well. Good luck to you.Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
Firstly, breathe. I can see that you are really guilty and you feel real real really bad, and you just have to remember the past, but don't drag it with you everywhere. You have the potential to be the first women in your family to change the pattern that has passed from mother to daughter.
The first thing you can do is to talk with you mother. Go to her at a good time and have a little mother-daughter talk. Stay calm and tell her how you feel about everything. Let her tell you how she feels, if she wants. But just try to get through with her how badly you feel. After the talk, learn to control the anger and vent it on something else other than her. Go for a long jog, or rest, or something that will calm you down. Then, whenever you do have a conflict take it into your own hands and talk it out with you dear mother.
As for the splitting with the husband thing, don't marry with someone until you know 100% for sure that he is going to make you happy for the rest of your life, because that's what a husband should be doing in the first place. Take your time in finding Mr. Definitely-Positively-Right.
Lastly, stay strong.
You just have to realize that your mom puts you above everyone in the world and though she may not act like it sometimes, she does. Everyone gets angry, thats life, I can understand why you are a little more angry with the cheating thing, but you should never hit your mom or show physical abuse. If she recently painted the walls then i would suggest finding the paint she used and paint the chipping paint. Just think before you act and realize that life could be worse...
A mother may be angry for such a stunt, but always know a mother will love her child anyway. I tell my kids, ';I don't like what you have done, but I do love you as my child.'; If you talk with your mom, tell her that really feel out of control at times and would like to get some therapy for anger management soon. One day your anger may get you into major trouble and you should do your best to avoid that. It will affect your jobs and your life in general. Also, offer to work and pay for having the wall fixed and repainted. That should show your mom that you are serious about getting help for this problem. Good luck to you!
well, I think that you need to tell her again that you need to see someone about this. It seems like your afraid of what you might become, and she should be told that. Hopefully she will get you some help once she hears that. As far as the cheating, we all make our own paths in life. Cheating is not a gene that is passed down from one generation to another. Just because they did it, does not mean that you will in any way, shape or form
Can you live with your dad? other relatives? friends? It sounds that you live in a house where your mom is a little well to say it nicely, mentally ill. I think you need to get out of there if she is making you mad and it gets to this point then get out and go somewhere safe
One thing you could have done to avoid this altogether was to ask for what you need the night before. That would require some planning on your part but if you are old enough for a driver's license you are old enough to act responsibly. That's one thing.
Hitting back and forth is not for human beings to do. You say there have been problems before and you and your mother both need to see a therapist to work out your anger issues which are immense.
As far as social services being involved, that shows your relationship is already compromised and you both need to work together and separately to straighten that out.
Your mother is the adult and should take the lead in finding help for you both. If she doesn't, you need to ask for help so you don't continue the cycle. Ask at school, talking to your counselor, and follow the advice you are given.
You have done something to be sorry for but you have more issues and it seems as though you may have to work on them through your own strengths, which will be very hard but its your life.
Try to take the high road for yourself and it may help your mom as well. Good luck to you.Advice?for a teen who did something in a moment of anger.?
Firstly, breathe. I can see that you are really guilty and you feel real real really bad, and you just have to remember the past, but don't drag it with you everywhere. You have the potential to be the first women in your family to change the pattern that has passed from mother to daughter.
The first thing you can do is to talk with you mother. Go to her at a good time and have a little mother-daughter talk. Stay calm and tell her how you feel about everything. Let her tell you how she feels, if she wants. But just try to get through with her how badly you feel. After the talk, learn to control the anger and vent it on something else other than her. Go for a long jog, or rest, or something that will calm you down. Then, whenever you do have a conflict take it into your own hands and talk it out with you dear mother.
As for the splitting with the husband thing, don't marry with someone until you know 100% for sure that he is going to make you happy for the rest of your life, because that's what a husband should be doing in the first place. Take your time in finding Mr. Definitely-Positively-Right.
Lastly, stay strong.
You just have to realize that your mom puts you above everyone in the world and though she may not act like it sometimes, she does. Everyone gets angry, thats life, I can understand why you are a little more angry with the cheating thing, but you should never hit your mom or show physical abuse. If she recently painted the walls then i would suggest finding the paint she used and paint the chipping paint. Just think before you act and realize that life could be worse...
A mother may be angry for such a stunt, but always know a mother will love her child anyway. I tell my kids, ';I don't like what you have done, but I do love you as my child.'; If you talk with your mom, tell her that really feel out of control at times and would like to get some therapy for anger management soon. One day your anger may get you into major trouble and you should do your best to avoid that. It will affect your jobs and your life in general. Also, offer to work and pay for having the wall fixed and repainted. That should show your mom that you are serious about getting help for this problem. Good luck to you!
well, I think that you need to tell her again that you need to see someone about this. It seems like your afraid of what you might become, and she should be told that. Hopefully she will get you some help once she hears that. As far as the cheating, we all make our own paths in life. Cheating is not a gene that is passed down from one generation to another. Just because they did it, does not mean that you will in any way, shape or form
Can you live with your dad? other relatives? friends? It sounds that you live in a house where your mom is a little well to say it nicely, mentally ill. I think you need to get out of there if she is making you mad and it gets to this point then get out and go somewhere safe
Advice for a teen who lives with over proctective granparents?
Im 16 only to turn 17 in a few months... I havent been on a first date yet...
I have had 2 ppl spend the night since august!
I havent been to anyones house in over a year!
Im not alloud to do anything.... with friends not even church!
I cant have a bf.. just come over and watch movies in the living room!
I cant do anything! they are so overprotective... living with grandparents sucks... I wish they werent this way but they are and its driving me crazy! It only pushing me away! I cant wait to graduate! its so bad they wont pay for college unless I stay close enough to live at home! Its bull crap! and its got me going insane please helP! any advice at all?Advice for a teen who lives with over proctective granparents?
It sounds like they have you on a VERY short leash and its not right. What they don't realize is that kids subjected to such harsh limitations will often revolt and go completely overboard with drinking, drugs and sex once they get some freedom. One thing is that grandparents lived in a different generation, therefore they didn't have the freedoms as a teen that most teens today have.
Have to talked to them about it? If you can show them that you don't abuse the freedom when you go out with friends, or boys, then maybe they will give you more freedoms. It sounds like you are living in a prison. You don't have a lot of options unless you want to explore living with another family. Otherwise, once you're 18, yo ucan be unchained.Advice for a teen who lives with over proctective granparents?
It sounds as if they love you very much! If you want to go away to college, get a scholarship %26amp; a job! What is the reason you are living with your grandparents? Is it because their son or daughter got into so much trouble they can't take care of you? Sit down - calmly - with them %26amp; have a heart to heart talk. Let them talk, too %26amp; try to see it from their side. Maybe you can prove to them that you are responsible. Are you? Good luck!
could there be a hint of loneliness in them? i had to live with my granparents many times at that age because my mum was too mentally unwell... i hated it too for the same reasons.... well it doesnt matter to me now. years later, but at the time it did. i just coped with it because i had no choice..... but knowing myself i would have moved out. if it really is htat bad (is it, really?) you are allowed by law, to move out and do what you want. rather, i would suggest you talk to them. failing that, see if there is a responsible friend whos parents may let you stay even for a little bit... give you a bit of space at least...
I have had 2 ppl spend the night since august!
I havent been to anyones house in over a year!
Im not alloud to do anything.... with friends not even church!
I cant have a bf.. just come over and watch movies in the living room!
I cant do anything! they are so overprotective... living with grandparents sucks... I wish they werent this way but they are and its driving me crazy! It only pushing me away! I cant wait to graduate! its so bad they wont pay for college unless I stay close enough to live at home! Its bull crap! and its got me going insane please helP! any advice at all?Advice for a teen who lives with over proctective granparents?
It sounds like they have you on a VERY short leash and its not right. What they don't realize is that kids subjected to such harsh limitations will often revolt and go completely overboard with drinking, drugs and sex once they get some freedom. One thing is that grandparents lived in a different generation, therefore they didn't have the freedoms as a teen that most teens today have.
Have to talked to them about it? If you can show them that you don't abuse the freedom when you go out with friends, or boys, then maybe they will give you more freedoms. It sounds like you are living in a prison. You don't have a lot of options unless you want to explore living with another family. Otherwise, once you're 18, yo ucan be unchained.Advice for a teen who lives with over proctective granparents?
It sounds as if they love you very much! If you want to go away to college, get a scholarship %26amp; a job! What is the reason you are living with your grandparents? Is it because their son or daughter got into so much trouble they can't take care of you? Sit down - calmly - with them %26amp; have a heart to heart talk. Let them talk, too %26amp; try to see it from their side. Maybe you can prove to them that you are responsible. Are you? Good luck!
could there be a hint of loneliness in them? i had to live with my granparents many times at that age because my mum was too mentally unwell... i hated it too for the same reasons.... well it doesnt matter to me now. years later, but at the time it did. i just coped with it because i had no choice..... but knowing myself i would have moved out. if it really is htat bad (is it, really?) you are allowed by law, to move out and do what you want. rather, i would suggest you talk to them. failing that, see if there is a responsible friend whos parents may let you stay even for a little bit... give you a bit of space at least...
Job advice for young teen? can anyone plz help.?
okay so i've been applying for like 2 days now. not a long time and i know that. but most people i talk to be like put in 7 applications and keep going up there. just keep aggravating them to show that you really want the job.
will this work?
i don't want to be too aggravating?
any advice?
鈾?thanxJob advice for young teen? can anyone plz help.?
you're in the wrong section of yahoo ans. but just wait, good things will come to good people.
will this work?
i don't want to be too aggravating?
any advice?
鈾?thanxJob advice for young teen? can anyone plz help.?
you're in the wrong section of yahoo ans. but just wait, good things will come to good people.
Any advice for a teen that is really mouthy?Please?I'm at my wits end!?
Hi-There!Here's the deal.I have two daughters one is 8 and the other is 12.She will soon be 13.Lately,she has just been really mouthy and ignorant.She is especially mean and hurtful(verbally)to her little sister!And She threatens her and me alot.I beg her to change her ways.I have grounded her but that rarely sticks.I do not smack my kids.When they were little I gave them a tap on the butt once in a while.But I never paddle them,or use a belt like both my husband and I got when we were younger(we're in our early 30's)!Part of the reason I dont is because they are to big!Another is the oldest threatens me!Says she will tell her school counselor,etc!And lastly my own mother has gone as far to get cys(children%26amp;youth services)involved!A few years ago,Partly because my kids will call her whenever they are not getting their way at home!Or when we try to discipline them by grounding them.Everything went well with CyS,though!We are not neglectful or abusing them.Help!Any advice?????Any advice for a teen that is really mouthy?Please?I'm at my wits end!?
she's 13!!! she's hit that age where she's trying on a million different hats to see which one fits right. i went through it and my parents and i both survived, thank goodness!
i remember being that age and vowing to myself that i would always remember so i wouldn't be as hard on my kids as my parents were on me!! well, i think my parents did the right thing or else i would have turned into a hoodlum!
i don't think your daughter needs spanked. she's old enough to talk to. a tap on the butt when she was younger was a way to get a point across to someone who you couldn't communicate with very well.
i do however think that she could use some discipline and understanding that YOU and DAD are the parents...you guys still get to decide what she can and can't do. if she threatens to call the school or other authorities, then call her bluff! you're not doing anything wrong, you are raising your child. she is using that as leverage to get her way and it's scaring you into giving it to you.
if i would have told my mom that i was going to call the cops on her she would have told me to go ahead, but call the ambulance first because there was going to be a dead kid in her house!! (i borrowed that from a comedian) but it's totally how my mom would have reacted. my parents were the bosses of their house, not my grandparents or us.
if your mom wants to get involved in how you raise your kids then have your daughter stay with her for a while. see what she says to that one! my guess is that she will graciously decline and then you can graciously ask her to butt out when it comes to raising your kids unless you ask for her guidance.
as for how to get your daughter to straigten out. ground her, but seriously ground her. no phone, no friends over, no going to friend's houses, no tv, no computer (unless for school and you need to monitor). do this for about 1 month. i may have been allowed tv, but only certain times, i think. i ended up reading A LOT! that's what my parents did for me when i was getting to big for my britches (about age 14 or 15) and it helped. i got out of the crowd i was hanging out with. i realized that i can't push them around and i learned how to communicate with them like an adult if i wanted to talk. if i started yelling and flying off the handle they'd jsut sit there and let me look like an idiot. they wouldn't give in to my antagonizing. i learned that if i wanted to talk i had to be in control and learn how to verbalize my feelings, then my parents were all ears.
i still call my mom every couple of days just to say ';hi'; b/c i live about 10 hours away. if they wouldn't have brought in the reigns i would have been out of control.
fortunately my brother and sister were a lot more tolerable than me and they only had to deal with one hellrasier!Any advice for a teen that is really mouthy?Please?I'm at my wits end!?
i don't know if you'll get this, but watch the personal computer if it's in your daughter's room. i watched an epsiode of Oprah that dug into the pron industry and it all starts in kid's bedrooms. via the internet, webcam and computer.please be on the lookout!!
You need to get thinks under control before it goes any further. You take things away from her and tell her when she start behaving she will get them back.
:-# )
Don't get her any thing until she start to cooperate. She will eventually catch on that when she behaves she will get those thing she wants. Lot of luck. And stick to what ever you do. The both of you and your husband. And I would tell my mother to butt out.
CHUCK
:-# )
counseling is the thing you need for both the girls. Your mother is nosey and needs to mind her own business. I noticed you mentioned the word ';BEG';. Wrong thing to do with kids. Tell your girls if they want to be heard and respected they need to give you the same as they want. I havae a 11 year old and she would never talk like that to me. never. She knows that gets her nowhere in life. It starts when they are younger and grows with them over time. It is good you know that you are not abusive because I doubt you are but the oldest needs to learn respect now or the hard cold world is going to swollow her up in about six or less years. Give respect and get it is the deal tell her. Do not give her extras when she asks as far as material things unless she can show she is respectful period! If you give in to her threats or verbal abuse she will only continue to use CPS against you and that is not kool. Tell her to stop crying wolf for one day noone will be there to listen to her........good luck.
There is a lot of good advice here. One final piece of advice I can give is call their bluff. They want to call child services, give them the phone. When they realize they have no control over you, they'll learn to respect your authority. My son said he was going to leave because I was too strict. I said OK, I'll pack your suitcase. I had him out the door, and 5 minutes later the door bell rang and he said he was sorry and wouldn't do that again.
He never pulls stunts with his father, because he knows his father will not put up with it.
What's your husband doing to help you out?
First thing is You absolutely have to stick to the level and duration of punishment you threaten. Not doing so loses their respect.
Next: Here is what kids need by law:
Food, water, Shelter, Schooling, and Clothing (not new or stylish).
Everything else is what I like to call. leverage.
Now that the kids have cried wolf to CYS you got them right where you want them. Let them cry. As long as you fullfil the state requirments you are safe and they are aware your daughters are in need of discipline.
well maybe something is bothering her and she is doing that to make her feel better so you should have a talk with her and if she continues to do that then you should call the police and tell them to take her away to an other house!
My 12 year old daughter was a lot bigger than me and she used to beat me when she didn't get her way. I let the school counselors and the police know the problems I was having with her so she couldn't tell them any stories in anger and revenge for discipline.
I advise you to get her into counseling, make the school counselors aware of the situation before she gets to them, and pray.....)(
First ground her for longer and longer times each time she starts in. If that doesnt work takeaway all her privlages (dating, friends, t.v. ect.).and im sorry but that is all i have that was all that my mom had to do to get me to shut up.
Age-13
If you have the means, family counseling...or SuperNanny. Otherwise, do NOT let either child get away with doing things wrong. Discipline by rewards and punishment...if your 12 year old keeps yelling and mouthing off to you, tell her to go to her room and/or take away something she is normally priveliged to (i.e. cell phone, t.v., video game, internet). If she does something you agree with after apologizing for what she did wrong, then give her some sort of reward...let her earn back what she's lost. Ask yourself...';Why does grounding her not work?...Am I being too lenient or not approaching this situation where I am in control? How is she thinking?';
ALWAYS stay in control...you're the parent, she's the child.
DO NOT BUDGE on issues that are important.
Share your burden with a close friend that you trust.
TALK with your children about what is happening...always be honest with why you do not agree with them, why you feel the way you do, why you believe the behavior should stop, and why you are doing what you are doing to discipline them.
SPANKING is risky, and most professionals do not believe this type of punishment should be used because it is showing violence.
IF you suspect that your children are in any danger, consult a professional...at school, at your religious group/church, talk to any role models...be involved with the people that ALSO take care of your children.
As a special needs foster parent for 16+ years, and a natural mother as well...
Make a rules sheet for the household. Put on this sheet specific consequences for each infraction. This does not mean that if it is not there it doesn't get a consequence- you should have a statement on this list that indicates that. Each consequence has to be strictly adhered to, no matter how many times she apologizes afterward or changes her ways. If you chose not to follow with corporal punishment (what she really needs and believe me children's services would not do anything if you truly spanked her in love and did not leave bruises, I know, I have been there with my own kids too). Bottom line pick and chose your battles - some will be easier to let go than others. When you chose a ';fight'; follow through on the consequence. The list should have a statement for not following through as well on your daughters' parts, in other words inaction begets additional consequences. It is harder on the parents during this time in their lives but by following through and being consistent you will shape the boundaries that will set their future. This is for your out of control daughter as well as the one that is up and coming. Consequences for talking back, consequences for manipulativeness, etc. As you get this started there is always another list that qualifies for rewards that is a must as well. Rewards for treating each other nice, rewards for good language. You can give points and have a point chart that allows rewards for reaching different levels. Rewards don't have to be expensive...they can be as easy as taking one daughter out for dinner by herself, taking her to a movie she choses (PG or less), etc. These charts always worked well for me and believe me there were times when all else went out the door and the police were involved too. That is not bad to do when you have a child who is willfully disobeying and potentially at risk. Go for it mom, be proactive and take charge of your household. BOTTOM LINE - Prayer changes everything! I get on my knees daily.
Another thing to think about....all of the things your daughter has, i.e., cell phone, those are things that should be taken away. Make her start over and ';earn'; the right to have them. There is nothing better than a natural consequence of property, children want their possessions
She wants to act like a grown up treat her like one. Stop cooking meals for her, stop washing her clothes, stop cleaning her room, stop giving her an allowance, stop doing ANYTHING for her except the bare minimum. If she needs a ride to her girlfriends house or to the mall to hang out, tell her to take a bus. When she needs new shoes, don't buy her the ones every other kid is wearing, take her to Kmart and get her some converse fish heads.Does she have a TV and stereo in her room? Take it back, tell her you are selling it to buy her clothes with the money.Eventually she's going to get the point that being a smartass little punk isnt going to work.
I have a 14 year old daughter, we just found out this past few months that she is Bipolar, sound a lot like what you are going threw, get some counseling and have it checked out, keep a journal on daily life in your home and bring it with you when you go to talk with a counselor. It is easy to forget once you are in there, believe me it does work, but hang in there, it is not over night
Call Super Nanny. ...Personally, I would never let my child speak to me that way and let her get away with it.Strip her room of everything and take the sheets off her bed as well.and put her in it.If I had to I would physically make her stay there until she showed respect for you and you other daughter.
Get her some counseling. She has some issues.
You need to nip this right away. Forget grounding. Instead, take away privileges like the phone or computer or whatever is important to her. Tell her privileges will return only when the good behavior returns. Also tell her to go ahead and get the school counselor involved. That's not a threat, the counselor is there to help. She is only 13. You must get control back fast and stick to your guns because if you don't you are guaranteed to fail.
AS the mom of 8 from the ages of 21-42 I can tell you that we have gone through it all. If she becomes physically abusive CALL THE POLICE!!!!! Maybe a little while in juvenile hall or a foster home would teach her a little about what a great home and mom she has. If you think this sounds extreme just look at what she is doing to your peace in the home- AND- you have another one learning from her right now. Good luck! Gerrie
well some thing can b botherin her or she needs some one to take it out on.ur gurl sounds like she needs conseling or a speacial treatmant program ur not inthe wrong today kids have no respected at all u need to talk to the school an see what they saggest.or since she is actin this way see if she can live with a famely member that u know that will give her the tought love treatment i got it an i grew up dont think this is ur fault an thier is nothin wrong with a whip from the belt cause we got it
Soap!!! Lots and lots of soap!!!
hi. i'm 11. i'm the same way.talk 2 her about it to see what is going on with her(my guardians to me its me hormonds or something like that)then if u find out her problem send her to her counslers(like my guardians did to me)it helped alot!! maybe even tell her to tell u all her fellings or to write them down. u need 2 be more strict with her.older to and i get smacked with a belt and hands and stuff like that.threaten her right back (like ur going to take things away.do meaner things to them maybe take their phone so they don't call their grandma.
I am with sshazamm and kaitbratz21. Call the cops. let them deal with her. when i was 9 (im 10 now, lol) i cried forever and refused and resisted a LOT from doing my homework and my mom called da fuzz (cops :P) they didnt do anything though, but when she called the cops i was scared as poop. I did my homework after that (grrrrr...). The other thing that sshazamm said, about the ';minimum requirements';, that would be a good thing to do.
It is best if you take her to the psycologist. Perhaps she is having trouble with people in school, or something happened that she can't tell you but she blames you. This way you can know what is happening, an solve the problem.
she's 13!!! she's hit that age where she's trying on a million different hats to see which one fits right. i went through it and my parents and i both survived, thank goodness!
i remember being that age and vowing to myself that i would always remember so i wouldn't be as hard on my kids as my parents were on me!! well, i think my parents did the right thing or else i would have turned into a hoodlum!
i don't think your daughter needs spanked. she's old enough to talk to. a tap on the butt when she was younger was a way to get a point across to someone who you couldn't communicate with very well.
i do however think that she could use some discipline and understanding that YOU and DAD are the parents...you guys still get to decide what she can and can't do. if she threatens to call the school or other authorities, then call her bluff! you're not doing anything wrong, you are raising your child. she is using that as leverage to get her way and it's scaring you into giving it to you.
if i would have told my mom that i was going to call the cops on her she would have told me to go ahead, but call the ambulance first because there was going to be a dead kid in her house!! (i borrowed that from a comedian) but it's totally how my mom would have reacted. my parents were the bosses of their house, not my grandparents or us.
if your mom wants to get involved in how you raise your kids then have your daughter stay with her for a while. see what she says to that one! my guess is that she will graciously decline and then you can graciously ask her to butt out when it comes to raising your kids unless you ask for her guidance.
as for how to get your daughter to straigten out. ground her, but seriously ground her. no phone, no friends over, no going to friend's houses, no tv, no computer (unless for school and you need to monitor). do this for about 1 month. i may have been allowed tv, but only certain times, i think. i ended up reading A LOT! that's what my parents did for me when i was getting to big for my britches (about age 14 or 15) and it helped. i got out of the crowd i was hanging out with. i realized that i can't push them around and i learned how to communicate with them like an adult if i wanted to talk. if i started yelling and flying off the handle they'd jsut sit there and let me look like an idiot. they wouldn't give in to my antagonizing. i learned that if i wanted to talk i had to be in control and learn how to verbalize my feelings, then my parents were all ears.
i still call my mom every couple of days just to say ';hi'; b/c i live about 10 hours away. if they wouldn't have brought in the reigns i would have been out of control.
fortunately my brother and sister were a lot more tolerable than me and they only had to deal with one hellrasier!Any advice for a teen that is really mouthy?Please?I'm at my wits end!?
i don't know if you'll get this, but watch the personal computer if it's in your daughter's room. i watched an epsiode of Oprah that dug into the pron industry and it all starts in kid's bedrooms. via the internet, webcam and computer.please be on the lookout!!
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You need to get thinks under control before it goes any further. You take things away from her and tell her when she start behaving she will get them back.
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Don't get her any thing until she start to cooperate. She will eventually catch on that when she behaves she will get those thing she wants. Lot of luck. And stick to what ever you do. The both of you and your husband. And I would tell my mother to butt out.
CHUCK
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counseling is the thing you need for both the girls. Your mother is nosey and needs to mind her own business. I noticed you mentioned the word ';BEG';. Wrong thing to do with kids. Tell your girls if they want to be heard and respected they need to give you the same as they want. I havae a 11 year old and she would never talk like that to me. never. She knows that gets her nowhere in life. It starts when they are younger and grows with them over time. It is good you know that you are not abusive because I doubt you are but the oldest needs to learn respect now or the hard cold world is going to swollow her up in about six or less years. Give respect and get it is the deal tell her. Do not give her extras when she asks as far as material things unless she can show she is respectful period! If you give in to her threats or verbal abuse she will only continue to use CPS against you and that is not kool. Tell her to stop crying wolf for one day noone will be there to listen to her........good luck.
There is a lot of good advice here. One final piece of advice I can give is call their bluff. They want to call child services, give them the phone. When they realize they have no control over you, they'll learn to respect your authority. My son said he was going to leave because I was too strict. I said OK, I'll pack your suitcase. I had him out the door, and 5 minutes later the door bell rang and he said he was sorry and wouldn't do that again.
He never pulls stunts with his father, because he knows his father will not put up with it.
What's your husband doing to help you out?
First thing is You absolutely have to stick to the level and duration of punishment you threaten. Not doing so loses their respect.
Next: Here is what kids need by law:
Food, water, Shelter, Schooling, and Clothing (not new or stylish).
Everything else is what I like to call. leverage.
Now that the kids have cried wolf to CYS you got them right where you want them. Let them cry. As long as you fullfil the state requirments you are safe and they are aware your daughters are in need of discipline.
well maybe something is bothering her and she is doing that to make her feel better so you should have a talk with her and if she continues to do that then you should call the police and tell them to take her away to an other house!
My 12 year old daughter was a lot bigger than me and she used to beat me when she didn't get her way. I let the school counselors and the police know the problems I was having with her so she couldn't tell them any stories in anger and revenge for discipline.
I advise you to get her into counseling, make the school counselors aware of the situation before she gets to them, and pray.....)(
First ground her for longer and longer times each time she starts in. If that doesnt work takeaway all her privlages (dating, friends, t.v. ect.).and im sorry but that is all i have that was all that my mom had to do to get me to shut up.
Age-13
If you have the means, family counseling...or SuperNanny. Otherwise, do NOT let either child get away with doing things wrong. Discipline by rewards and punishment...if your 12 year old keeps yelling and mouthing off to you, tell her to go to her room and/or take away something she is normally priveliged to (i.e. cell phone, t.v., video game, internet). If she does something you agree with after apologizing for what she did wrong, then give her some sort of reward...let her earn back what she's lost. Ask yourself...';Why does grounding her not work?...Am I being too lenient or not approaching this situation where I am in control? How is she thinking?';
ALWAYS stay in control...you're the parent, she's the child.
DO NOT BUDGE on issues that are important.
Share your burden with a close friend that you trust.
TALK with your children about what is happening...always be honest with why you do not agree with them, why you feel the way you do, why you believe the behavior should stop, and why you are doing what you are doing to discipline them.
SPANKING is risky, and most professionals do not believe this type of punishment should be used because it is showing violence.
IF you suspect that your children are in any danger, consult a professional...at school, at your religious group/church, talk to any role models...be involved with the people that ALSO take care of your children.
As a special needs foster parent for 16+ years, and a natural mother as well...
Make a rules sheet for the household. Put on this sheet specific consequences for each infraction. This does not mean that if it is not there it doesn't get a consequence- you should have a statement on this list that indicates that. Each consequence has to be strictly adhered to, no matter how many times she apologizes afterward or changes her ways. If you chose not to follow with corporal punishment (what she really needs and believe me children's services would not do anything if you truly spanked her in love and did not leave bruises, I know, I have been there with my own kids too). Bottom line pick and chose your battles - some will be easier to let go than others. When you chose a ';fight'; follow through on the consequence. The list should have a statement for not following through as well on your daughters' parts, in other words inaction begets additional consequences. It is harder on the parents during this time in their lives but by following through and being consistent you will shape the boundaries that will set their future. This is for your out of control daughter as well as the one that is up and coming. Consequences for talking back, consequences for manipulativeness, etc. As you get this started there is always another list that qualifies for rewards that is a must as well. Rewards for treating each other nice, rewards for good language. You can give points and have a point chart that allows rewards for reaching different levels. Rewards don't have to be expensive...they can be as easy as taking one daughter out for dinner by herself, taking her to a movie she choses (PG or less), etc. These charts always worked well for me and believe me there were times when all else went out the door and the police were involved too. That is not bad to do when you have a child who is willfully disobeying and potentially at risk. Go for it mom, be proactive and take charge of your household. BOTTOM LINE - Prayer changes everything! I get on my knees daily.
Another thing to think about....all of the things your daughter has, i.e., cell phone, those are things that should be taken away. Make her start over and ';earn'; the right to have them. There is nothing better than a natural consequence of property, children want their possessions
She wants to act like a grown up treat her like one. Stop cooking meals for her, stop washing her clothes, stop cleaning her room, stop giving her an allowance, stop doing ANYTHING for her except the bare minimum. If she needs a ride to her girlfriends house or to the mall to hang out, tell her to take a bus. When she needs new shoes, don't buy her the ones every other kid is wearing, take her to Kmart and get her some converse fish heads.Does she have a TV and stereo in her room? Take it back, tell her you are selling it to buy her clothes with the money.Eventually she's going to get the point that being a smartass little punk isnt going to work.
I have a 14 year old daughter, we just found out this past few months that she is Bipolar, sound a lot like what you are going threw, get some counseling and have it checked out, keep a journal on daily life in your home and bring it with you when you go to talk with a counselor. It is easy to forget once you are in there, believe me it does work, but hang in there, it is not over night
Call Super Nanny. ...Personally, I would never let my child speak to me that way and let her get away with it.Strip her room of everything and take the sheets off her bed as well.and put her in it.If I had to I would physically make her stay there until she showed respect for you and you other daughter.
Get her some counseling. She has some issues.
You need to nip this right away. Forget grounding. Instead, take away privileges like the phone or computer or whatever is important to her. Tell her privileges will return only when the good behavior returns. Also tell her to go ahead and get the school counselor involved. That's not a threat, the counselor is there to help. She is only 13. You must get control back fast and stick to your guns because if you don't you are guaranteed to fail.
AS the mom of 8 from the ages of 21-42 I can tell you that we have gone through it all. If she becomes physically abusive CALL THE POLICE!!!!! Maybe a little while in juvenile hall or a foster home would teach her a little about what a great home and mom she has. If you think this sounds extreme just look at what she is doing to your peace in the home- AND- you have another one learning from her right now. Good luck! Gerrie
well some thing can b botherin her or she needs some one to take it out on.ur gurl sounds like she needs conseling or a speacial treatmant program ur not inthe wrong today kids have no respected at all u need to talk to the school an see what they saggest.or since she is actin this way see if she can live with a famely member that u know that will give her the tought love treatment i got it an i grew up dont think this is ur fault an thier is nothin wrong with a whip from the belt cause we got it
Soap!!! Lots and lots of soap!!!
hi. i'm 11. i'm the same way.talk 2 her about it to see what is going on with her(my guardians to me its me hormonds or something like that)then if u find out her problem send her to her counslers(like my guardians did to me)it helped alot!! maybe even tell her to tell u all her fellings or to write them down. u need 2 be more strict with her.older to and i get smacked with a belt and hands and stuff like that.threaten her right back (like ur going to take things away.do meaner things to them maybe take their phone so they don't call their grandma.
I am with sshazamm and kaitbratz21. Call the cops. let them deal with her. when i was 9 (im 10 now, lol) i cried forever and refused and resisted a LOT from doing my homework and my mom called da fuzz (cops :P) they didnt do anything though, but when she called the cops i was scared as poop. I did my homework after that (grrrrr...). The other thing that sshazamm said, about the ';minimum requirements';, that would be a good thing to do.
It is best if you take her to the psycologist. Perhaps she is having trouble with people in school, or something happened that she can't tell you but she blames you. This way you can know what is happening, an solve the problem.
Diet Help tips,advice for a teen? NO PILLS!?
Hi:]
im going on a diet after my holidays which is not next week but the week after when i come back so i'm wondering if anyone can give me good tips and advice what not too do and how can i be commited to stay on the diet and be able to lose fat:( so all sites,advice,tips are welcome but please no pills!!!!
and no rude comments please
i cannot take pills!Diet Help tips,advice for a teen? NO PILLS!?
Here are a few tips;
WHEN to eat for losing weight...
鈥?Eat (at least) three times a day.
Because when you eat only once a day, your metabolism gets slower than it already is! That's the main reason. Sounds funny, but to lose weight... you must eat (the right things, of course)
鈥?Eat low-fat, high-fiber foods such as salads and vegetable pastas.
鈥?Your last meal should be before 18:00. Try.
OK, one apple after 18:00
鈥?Don't starve
Starvation is not good for losing weight, nor your health.
Starvation is the worse thing you can do in a weight loss diet.
鈥?Try oatmeal instead of cornflakes for breakfast--eating oatmeal can help reduce cholesterol levels, and its high fiber content will keep you full longer.
WHAT to drink for losing weight...
鈥?Drink 6-8 glasses of water every day !
Can be tap, plain, mineral, sparkling. I just love mineral sparkling water!
This improves your bowel, reduces the ';hunger'; sensation, and hydrates your skin. Your skin will look much better after the first weeks!
Don't believe the slogan ';water makes me fat';. Besides being stupid... you might get into serious troubles with your kidneys.
鈥?Drink ONLY natural juices, freshly squeezed!
Don't drink Coca Cola, Pepsi, and Sprite etc. during the diet. Even lite or light versions.
鈥?Avoid those vending machines by carrying around your own healthful foods and leaving pocket change at home.
Exercise for losing weight...
鈥?If you want quicker results - exercise would be good.
鈥?Start a regular exercise program and stick with it. Don't be afraid of those sweat suits and Lycra pants!
鈥?Start swimming. Swimming is an excellent exercise to get involved with, since it increases blood flow and uses muscles we don't regularly use. Start a swimming program and try to do it 3 times a week. You will feel excellent and rejuvenated.
鈥?Choose an exercise program that you enjoy, and don't shun the unconventional. For instance, did you know that regular vigorous dancing is exercise too?
鈥?Also Cardiovascular exercises such as running, jogging, or aerobics will help you lose that unwanted belly fat. Weight training can also help you lose body fat because the more muscle mass you have, the more ability your system has to burn body fat.
Good luck!Diet Help tips,advice for a teen? NO PILLS!?
In my experience eating a balanced diet of protein and other foods that have little to no fat and exercising at least thirty minuted a day is the best way to loose weight and not take pills. Eating four to six small meals a day that are high in protein with drinking 64 oz to 100 oz of fluid to help flush your system. This will help to wash out the toxins and fat from your body. I hope this helps and that you loose the weight you want. Good luck.
My best advice is to start eating healthy - keep track of calories (this would depend on height/weight) and more importantly, your fruit/veg intake.
Cutting juice/soda out of your diet can cut 200+ calories a day. That can add up to a pound a week. Drink water or tea instead - even if you sweeten the tea, you'll be using much less sugar.
By drinking lots of water, you'll allow your body to release water weight. Being in a semi-state of dehydration means your body is carrying around more water than it needs to, just in case you stop giving it any. Give it enough, and it will function normally.
By eating good food and less sugar, you'll re-train your taste buds. Everything will taste better and you'll crave good food.
You can take a look at this site:
http://www.squidoo.com/foods-that-can-help-me-lose-weight
It has a list of foods you can take which helps in your weight loss plan.
There is also a product recommendation on the site that will lead you to information on a top diet program that teach you how much to diet for the kinds of food you eat. Good luck! :)
. The only simple way to loose weight fast is to raise your metabolism, to burn more fat. not to starve yourself because your body is very intellident, it can detect when you are lack of calories from food and makes u feel sleepy to restore calories for the body.
Eat negative calories or high fiber food: Asparagus, broccoli, cauliflower, celery, lettuce %26amp; zucchini. Because these food require a lot of calories to digest so in return the more you eat the more calories you can burn without doing anything.
Fruits that are good for you are apple, grapefruit ( as much as possible , no harm ) or any other type of citrus like pomelo or orange.
Eat many small meals rather than 2 or 3 big meals. Because if u do so you will get your body to work all the time to digest the food and it will keep your body digestion up =%26gt; burn more calories.
Drink a lot of green tea. Good for your health, delicious and high antioxident. Not only for weight loss but also for better looking skin.
Go to sauna or swimming, dogwalking if ur lazy. Keep yourself active even when ur lazy :-D .
Spicy food help boost metabolism.
Eat more fish and beef, mincemeat . if you eat chicken dont eat the skin.
Drink omega 3 fish oil supplement to have better concentration and memory, and omega 3 fish oil helps the body to prevent restore fat.
You can check here for more explanation about this, the best article about diet and i saved it in my favorite. http://www.squidoo.com/howtoraisemetabol鈥?/a>
Good luck !
don't use all of these silly weight-losing websites. they do not work.
the main things you have to do is just eat right and exercise. eat right and exercise eat right and exercise.
this means: no eating bread, potatoes, cakes, SUGAR, and cut down on fruits. because they are packed with sugar and it doesn't matter if its good and ppl say that its natural. NO!
so next do a lot of cardio workouts. go running, bicycle riding, swimming, stuff like that. be sure to not get lazy and miss out.
im going on a diet after my holidays which is not next week but the week after when i come back so i'm wondering if anyone can give me good tips and advice what not too do and how can i be commited to stay on the diet and be able to lose fat:( so all sites,advice,tips are welcome but please no pills!!!!
and no rude comments please
i cannot take pills!Diet Help tips,advice for a teen? NO PILLS!?
Here are a few tips;
WHEN to eat for losing weight...
鈥?Eat (at least) three times a day.
Because when you eat only once a day, your metabolism gets slower than it already is! That's the main reason. Sounds funny, but to lose weight... you must eat (the right things, of course)
鈥?Eat low-fat, high-fiber foods such as salads and vegetable pastas.
鈥?Your last meal should be before 18:00. Try.
OK, one apple after 18:00
鈥?Don't starve
Starvation is not good for losing weight, nor your health.
Starvation is the worse thing you can do in a weight loss diet.
鈥?Try oatmeal instead of cornflakes for breakfast--eating oatmeal can help reduce cholesterol levels, and its high fiber content will keep you full longer.
WHAT to drink for losing weight...
鈥?Drink 6-8 glasses of water every day !
Can be tap, plain, mineral, sparkling. I just love mineral sparkling water!
This improves your bowel, reduces the ';hunger'; sensation, and hydrates your skin. Your skin will look much better after the first weeks!
Don't believe the slogan ';water makes me fat';. Besides being stupid... you might get into serious troubles with your kidneys.
鈥?Drink ONLY natural juices, freshly squeezed!
Don't drink Coca Cola, Pepsi, and Sprite etc. during the diet. Even lite or light versions.
鈥?Avoid those vending machines by carrying around your own healthful foods and leaving pocket change at home.
Exercise for losing weight...
鈥?If you want quicker results - exercise would be good.
鈥?Start a regular exercise program and stick with it. Don't be afraid of those sweat suits and Lycra pants!
鈥?Start swimming. Swimming is an excellent exercise to get involved with, since it increases blood flow and uses muscles we don't regularly use. Start a swimming program and try to do it 3 times a week. You will feel excellent and rejuvenated.
鈥?Choose an exercise program that you enjoy, and don't shun the unconventional. For instance, did you know that regular vigorous dancing is exercise too?
鈥?Also Cardiovascular exercises such as running, jogging, or aerobics will help you lose that unwanted belly fat. Weight training can also help you lose body fat because the more muscle mass you have, the more ability your system has to burn body fat.
Good luck!Diet Help tips,advice for a teen? NO PILLS!?
In my experience eating a balanced diet of protein and other foods that have little to no fat and exercising at least thirty minuted a day is the best way to loose weight and not take pills. Eating four to six small meals a day that are high in protein with drinking 64 oz to 100 oz of fluid to help flush your system. This will help to wash out the toxins and fat from your body. I hope this helps and that you loose the weight you want. Good luck.
My best advice is to start eating healthy - keep track of calories (this would depend on height/weight) and more importantly, your fruit/veg intake.
Cutting juice/soda out of your diet can cut 200+ calories a day. That can add up to a pound a week. Drink water or tea instead - even if you sweeten the tea, you'll be using much less sugar.
By drinking lots of water, you'll allow your body to release water weight. Being in a semi-state of dehydration means your body is carrying around more water than it needs to, just in case you stop giving it any. Give it enough, and it will function normally.
By eating good food and less sugar, you'll re-train your taste buds. Everything will taste better and you'll crave good food.
You can take a look at this site:
http://www.squidoo.com/foods-that-can-help-me-lose-weight
It has a list of foods you can take which helps in your weight loss plan.
There is also a product recommendation on the site that will lead you to information on a top diet program that teach you how much to diet for the kinds of food you eat. Good luck! :)
. The only simple way to loose weight fast is to raise your metabolism, to burn more fat. not to starve yourself because your body is very intellident, it can detect when you are lack of calories from food and makes u feel sleepy to restore calories for the body.
Eat negative calories or high fiber food: Asparagus, broccoli, cauliflower, celery, lettuce %26amp; zucchini. Because these food require a lot of calories to digest so in return the more you eat the more calories you can burn without doing anything.
Fruits that are good for you are apple, grapefruit ( as much as possible , no harm ) or any other type of citrus like pomelo or orange.
Eat many small meals rather than 2 or 3 big meals. Because if u do so you will get your body to work all the time to digest the food and it will keep your body digestion up =%26gt; burn more calories.
Drink a lot of green tea. Good for your health, delicious and high antioxident. Not only for weight loss but also for better looking skin.
Go to sauna or swimming, dogwalking if ur lazy. Keep yourself active even when ur lazy :-D .
Spicy food help boost metabolism.
Eat more fish and beef, mincemeat . if you eat chicken dont eat the skin.
Drink omega 3 fish oil supplement to have better concentration and memory, and omega 3 fish oil helps the body to prevent restore fat.
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Good luck !
don't use all of these silly weight-losing websites. they do not work.
the main things you have to do is just eat right and exercise. eat right and exercise eat right and exercise.
this means: no eating bread, potatoes, cakes, SUGAR, and cut down on fruits. because they are packed with sugar and it doesn't matter if its good and ppl say that its natural. NO!
so next do a lot of cardio workouts. go running, bicycle riding, swimming, stuff like that. be sure to not get lazy and miss out.
Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Tell Parents Cause They Will Go Insane???????????
well eventually you have to tell them or they'll never trust you again. It's just when you decide to tell them. Make sure you kiss up and they're in a goood mood before you tell them. You may want to change some of your actions too so that they think you are responsible. Of course they'll yell cause you're their baby girl and always will be but they'll eventually calm down. And then you guys can talk about it and go into all teh details.
Establish some ground rules with your parents, that way they'll think you're responsible and trust you more. But waiting too long to tell them like a couple of months may lose you some respect.Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Tell Parents Cause They Will Go Insane???????????
First things first: Do you love him, and does he love you?
If you both want to be together, then be together. Just be sure he's not only trying to hurt you or anything.
As for the parents, try to ask them for advice, discretly. Maybe even the ';I have this friend who has this boyfriend, but is afraid they might not like him'; thingy.
It lame and old, but it may work.
Or else, try talking to just, one parent. Explain it carefully and assure them your'e going to be careful.
And try appealing to their own first teenage love.
But I agree with the other guy, don't lie to them or they will never trust you again.
Good luck :)Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Tell Parents Cause They Will Go Insane???????????
Honestly for me, when I first had a boyfriend I did not tell them. I just insisted we were friends. After a few months of being together my parents started to get the idea. I was scared to death because my father is very protective and did not like the thought of boyfriends. My parents and I pretty much didn't speak about it much in that part of my life was kind of off limits to them. My first boyfriend was at 16 right before I turned 17. So be smart, take responcibility and start showing them that you are a capable adult. If your going to have sex be responsible and make sure your protected! And have fun!
Don't be intimate (as in intercourse of any kind).
Go out in groups of friends, and allow your parents to get to know him as one of your friends. Once your parents see that you are good friends with him, bring up the fact that you want to date him. They will be more likely to allow it if they see you being mature about the relationship.
keep things quite until you know things are really serious between you and your boyfriend. after a couple of months if ye are still together then you can tell your parents. no point teling them if things dont last
Tricky..thing is if u dont tell they will never trust u again!!!
if u tell they will go mad!!!
So what u do is u ask to date, say u are responsable etc..dont say u have one ask to date my friend:)
Wear a condom- avoid THAT conversation later.
dont tell them .....
anyway the guy will pay for all the expenses .... lolrecipes cream
Establish some ground rules with your parents, that way they'll think you're responsible and trust you more. But waiting too long to tell them like a couple of months may lose you some respect.Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Tell Parents Cause They Will Go Insane???????????
First things first: Do you love him, and does he love you?
If you both want to be together, then be together. Just be sure he's not only trying to hurt you or anything.
As for the parents, try to ask them for advice, discretly. Maybe even the ';I have this friend who has this boyfriend, but is afraid they might not like him'; thingy.
It lame and old, but it may work.
Or else, try talking to just, one parent. Explain it carefully and assure them your'e going to be careful.
And try appealing to their own first teenage love.
But I agree with the other guy, don't lie to them or they will never trust you again.
Good luck :)Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Tell Parents Cause They Will Go Insane???????????
Honestly for me, when I first had a boyfriend I did not tell them. I just insisted we were friends. After a few months of being together my parents started to get the idea. I was scared to death because my father is very protective and did not like the thought of boyfriends. My parents and I pretty much didn't speak about it much in that part of my life was kind of off limits to them. My first boyfriend was at 16 right before I turned 17. So be smart, take responcibility and start showing them that you are a capable adult. If your going to have sex be responsible and make sure your protected! And have fun!
Don't be intimate (as in intercourse of any kind).
Go out in groups of friends, and allow your parents to get to know him as one of your friends. Once your parents see that you are good friends with him, bring up the fact that you want to date him. They will be more likely to allow it if they see you being mature about the relationship.
keep things quite until you know things are really serious between you and your boyfriend. after a couple of months if ye are still together then you can tell your parents. no point teling them if things dont last
Tricky..thing is if u dont tell they will never trust u again!!!
if u tell they will go mad!!!
So what u do is u ask to date, say u are responsable etc..dont say u have one ask to date my friend:)
Wear a condom- avoid THAT conversation later.
dont tell them .....
anyway the guy will pay for all the expenses .... lol
Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Tell Parents Go Cause They Will Insane???????????
I know that i've dated guys before that my parents didn't approve of them. Its much harder to date someone seriously that your parents don't approve of. I suggest finding a guy that your parents approve of. you shouldn't have to hide something or someone you love from your parents. i'm dating a guy that my parents finally like and its soo much easier.Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Tell Parents Go Cause They Will Insane???????????
just wait for the right time...I was in grade school but I had a long term relationship..SERIOUSLY...I had 3 boyfriends back then..all of them are in junior high...but I can't tell my parents since they will be angry and say that I'm too young to have one...but now that I'm 15 years of age and a freshman in college, I am ready to tell my parents that I have a bf( I already told them last year)..and well they are just teasing me..but they also telling me that I should know my limits..that is NO SEX...
just wait for the right time...I was in grade school but I had a long term relationship..SERIOUSLY...I had 3 boyfriends back then..all of them are in junior high...but I can't tell my parents since they will be angry and say that I'm too young to have one...but now that I'm 15 years of age and a freshman in college, I am ready to tell my parents that I have a bf( I already told them last year)..and well they are just teasing me..but they also telling me that I should know my limits..that is NO SEX...
Advice For A Teen That Has Boyfriend But Can't Parents Go Cause They Will Insane???????????
You should respect your parents wishes!!! When the time is right, talk to them about having a BF and see what they say. You never know if they will actually go ';insane'; it might not be as bad as you think.
Advice for a teen girl? ?
Who's truly love with a boy but was forbidden to see him/talk to him by her parents. She makes straight A's and is very mature. He is very trustworthy and responsible. The parents are the only barrier between the two. What should she do? Advice for a teen girl? ?
Wow you sound exactly like me except my mom doesn't really get in the way.
try begging lol
try to play the trust card ask your parents why they don't trust you or use your grades as a weapon
these work for me!
Good Luck!!!...XDAdvice for a teen girl? ?
Parents do not go out of their way to steer you wrong. Think of the things they have taught you in other areas of your life. You may be mature and trustworthy but it's easy to get caught up in certain situations. Your parents are keeping you safe, you just don't know it yet.
dont tell your parents...thats the best i can tell you...theres no other way..your parents sound kinda protective
answer mine?
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she should respect her parents wishes. she has to live with them and they can make it pretty ruff on her, if you know what i mean.
Move out and marry him.
Wow you sound exactly like me except my mom doesn't really get in the way.
try begging lol
try to play the trust card ask your parents why they don't trust you or use your grades as a weapon
these work for me!
Good Luck!!!...XDAdvice for a teen girl? ?
Parents do not go out of their way to steer you wrong. Think of the things they have taught you in other areas of your life. You may be mature and trustworthy but it's easy to get caught up in certain situations. Your parents are keeping you safe, you just don't know it yet.
dont tell your parents...thats the best i can tell you...theres no other way..your parents sound kinda protective
answer mine?
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she should respect her parents wishes. she has to live with them and they can make it pretty ruff on her, if you know what i mean.
Move out and marry him.
Do any other (Christian 14 yr old+) teens watch True Blood? need some advice for my over conscious self?
Hiyy,
Im somewhat of a good catholic and I have been caught up with the whole vampire mania even before it started. Im not liek obsessed with them, but from time to time I am interested in them. But I think that it may go against my catholic heritage. Also, because of this interest, I have seen anime shows like Vampire Knight and HBO's True Blood. I never expected True Blood to be so X-rated, so I didn't intend to be watching vampire sex scenes. I am 14 years old and after having sex-ed and learning further about sex through my peers and how I know some of the people I know my age already had sex [I plan to keep my virginity till I'm married], I think I'm fully mature to handle it and I don't get as horny over it, but after seeing such sex scenes, I feel a little guilty that it's taking away some of my innocence and that I might be watching porn. I am not the clueless innocent kind of person, but I am quite innocent and naive %26amp;%26amp; that's something that is bad, yet good.
I'm sorry to be writing so much, but I'm really concerned about this. Anyone have some good advice for someone like me?
--%26gt;Thanks so muchDo any other (Christian 14 yr old+) teens watch True Blood? need some advice for my over conscious self?
I think if you like the show and you enjoy it then you should keep watching it. The sex is not that major a part of it, so I mean if it makes you uncomfortable in that way then i supposed you could just fast forward or not watch those scenes. I don't think you should be worried though, sure its a bit graphic but sex isn't bad or evil, and I wouldn't consider the sex on true blood to be like porn because sookie and bill are the ones having the majority of the sex, and they are legitimately in love.Do any other (Christian 14 yr old+) teens watch True Blood? need some advice for my over conscious self?
I think the sex scenes are fine, but the violence on that show is pretty graphic. No way I would have been watching people being dismembered when I was 14. Maybe you should ask your parents weather they think the show is suitable for you.
Im somewhat of a good catholic and I have been caught up with the whole vampire mania even before it started. Im not liek obsessed with them, but from time to time I am interested in them. But I think that it may go against my catholic heritage. Also, because of this interest, I have seen anime shows like Vampire Knight and HBO's True Blood. I never expected True Blood to be so X-rated, so I didn't intend to be watching vampire sex scenes. I am 14 years old and after having sex-ed and learning further about sex through my peers and how I know some of the people I know my age already had sex [I plan to keep my virginity till I'm married], I think I'm fully mature to handle it and I don't get as horny over it, but after seeing such sex scenes, I feel a little guilty that it's taking away some of my innocence and that I might be watching porn. I am not the clueless innocent kind of person, but I am quite innocent and naive %26amp;%26amp; that's something that is bad, yet good.
I'm sorry to be writing so much, but I'm really concerned about this. Anyone have some good advice for someone like me?
--%26gt;Thanks so muchDo any other (Christian 14 yr old+) teens watch True Blood? need some advice for my over conscious self?
I think if you like the show and you enjoy it then you should keep watching it. The sex is not that major a part of it, so I mean if it makes you uncomfortable in that way then i supposed you could just fast forward or not watch those scenes. I don't think you should be worried though, sure its a bit graphic but sex isn't bad or evil, and I wouldn't consider the sex on true blood to be like porn because sookie and bill are the ones having the majority of the sex, and they are legitimately in love.Do any other (Christian 14 yr old+) teens watch True Blood? need some advice for my over conscious self?
I think the sex scenes are fine, but the violence on that show is pretty graphic. No way I would have been watching people being dismembered when I was 14. Maybe you should ask your parents weather they think the show is suitable for you.
I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
im a 15 yr old guy and im thinking of just doing away with my body hair. see i have black body hair and totally white skin plus the amount and length of it is terribly large so i look like a sasquatch and im not even done puberty. BUT im afraid other guys would make fun of me like in the locker room and my dad is totally opposed to it. if i get more muscle could i use that as an excuse to get rid of my hair? and finally what would be the best method to get rid of it other than shaving and i tried waxing before but it didnt wrk out too well cause i couldnt get the stuff off fast enough so would it be easier if someone helped me namely a gf if shes willing to? thanks in advance.I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
you can use NAIR, shave, or wax. i would just leave it alone cause the more you remove it the thicker and darker it'll come back. also in my personal opinion guys with no hair is a bigger turn off then guys with lots of hair. and most guys would probably think your weird.I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
hair removal products. but dnt worry, hair is manly and dont let anyone put you down for it. itsnot something you can control or you chose.
you could use nair.
you can use NAIR, shave, or wax. i would just leave it alone cause the more you remove it the thicker and darker it'll come back. also in my personal opinion guys with no hair is a bigger turn off then guys with lots of hair. and most guys would probably think your weird.I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
hair removal products. but dnt worry, hair is manly and dont let anyone put you down for it. itsnot something you can control or you chose.
you could use nair.
Christian advice for desperate teen? Please only christians who attend church or do something along those line
I have been having mixed feelings about this but I want to play football but I'm not to sure if God is closing doors or if it's just a challenge I have to overcome. I want to play football. I'm overweight, out of shape, I believe I have natural streght that only needs to be worked out, I'm discouraged from doing this, I went to a practice and it felt liked it killed me(I didn't return to it but I think it was me lacking faith that God would help me), I have people who support me, I go to church, I try to read my Bible every day, and I don't know how to do the practices or how to plat but I have an uncontrollable hunger to play. I want to be a defensive lineman. My question is what do you think of this and do you think our God in Heaven is pulling my heart into this direction. FYI I have been baptized and saved in a baptist church and I'm 16. So please help. Jesus Loves and Adores.Christian advice for desperate teen? Please only christians who attend church or do something along those line
One thing I have learned is that GOD doesn't give you what you can't handle. I have done many athletics in my time. I wasn't the biggest, strongest, fastest or healthiest. By the grace of GOD, I over came my fear, pain and feelings of hopelessness and went on to practice and made the teams. My determination in doing what I loved and the effort I gave my team made a difference. Encouragement to my teammates( because I was a bench warmer for basketball) helped them play better. I didn't win more than 5 swim races,but finished high enough to help my TEAM make it to state. My teammates helped me get into better shape and with my home work. Those little lessons in life have helped me more than my congregation at that age. Until I got involved in our churches youth volleyball league. GOD opens many doors for us and we need to ask for his help to walk through them. He knows what lessons we learn on the other side of that door. And those lessons make us better people, not just better Christians.Christian advice for desperate teen? Please only christians who attend church or do something along those line
its a challange you have to overcome, god placed it there for this purpose
Just pray to God for guidance and strength to get through the practices. I know how football practices can be....they're not easy for any of us even the ones in tip top shape, the practices aren't supposed to be a walk in the park, and chances are if it killing you, it's killing others as well. Remember God helps those who help themselves. Good luck, God bless.
Dear truefire1, In my 44 years of facing adversity and challenges, it's been the times where I've handed these challenges over to God that I've experienced the most success. By ';success';, I don't mean to say that the end result is what I wanted. In fact, many times the end result is the opposite of what I hoped for in the outcome. Then, lo and behold, days weeks or months later, it was revealed to me that how things happened were all for the best. In your search to discover if playing football should be part of your journey, hand it all over to God. If things are pointing you in that direction, then follow. If every time you involve yourself in something football related, no matter how difficult or painful, and it feels right, if it feels like you're putting a round peg into a round hole, then God is giving you his OK that you're doing the right thing. Like any loving parent, God wants us to be our best. He wants us to be our healthiest and strongest. He knows that when we care for ourselves physically, we are less likely to succumb to weaknesses. Maybe, football is calling to you as a vehicle for you to improve yourself physically AND mentally. What ever comes of this challenge, I wish you the very best! Being 16 can be difficult in and of itself. God's peace and grace, kimmer
MUSLIM ANSWERING THIS QUESTION. i think that is possible that football is a motivation for you to take control of the health in your life. i think you should hold off on trying out for teams and spend some time doing endurance training so that you know your body will be able to handle the demands of practice, training, and playing.
OK get into shape the only way you can be an athlete is to be in shape (look at pro wrestlers, and that is fake.) It is written in the Bible that.... God helps he who helps himself.... so help yourself to the daily workouts and listen to the coaches scream all day (it really is the only way you will hear them outdoors, they ain't mean in high school.)
You did not give your age, but I assume you are in high school. Go talk to the coach, and listen to him!!!! God will be there for you when you really need Him. He will be there watching when you don't. Trust God above all else. Trust your coaches and pay attention, they want you to succeed both in school and on the field.
As for the coaches they will help you get in shape and build up the muscles you need to for football. Also take Track and Field in the off season, the work outs will keep you in shape all year.
Hi, how awesome that a teenager loves God and wants like minded answers.
Well first of all, it is your flesh that is fighting you, not God closing this door. Your desire to play is God. He wants you to be happy and to be doing something that you obviously have a desire to do. You have taken the first step in knowing that you are out of shape and need to work on it. Go and talk to the Defense Coach and let him know how much you want to play and your desire to be a part of this team. He just might take you under his wing and help you achieve this goal. If you become the player you want to be, not only will it be an awesome thing, it will benefit the team. God will give you the strength to overcome. He wants you to be an over-comer and achiever of great things. Whenever we have fear, uncertainty, or self-esteem issues, it is the work of the enemy. You take this challenge and ride it to victory. I will pray for you and will give you this scripture--- Joshua 1:9
God Bless!
I was an overweight teen Christian who played football. It was hard. The running just about killed me but I am glad that I played. If that is what you really want you can do it. Most of my friends who played football were not CHristians so spending time with them helped me to be a witness. There was a time when I didn't think I was having any influence but one night before a big game I was really nervous so I got down and started praying on my own in the locker room. When I finished and go up there were guys all around me praying too.
First of all, meet with the HS coach and tell him what your abilities are. Maybe he'll allow some leeway. Still, you need to lose some weight to be a DL and get into shape. If the practice nearly killed you, then that's what it's going to be like for EVERY practice and EVERY game. If the coach doesn't feel you are the kind to play football, he will let you know. Don't try to exhaust yourself.
God sometimes closes doors but opens windows. Maybe you may not be cut out for football but maybe you might be cut out for something else. Have you tried HS wrestling?
If you felt exhausted after a practice, then it's probably God telling you that you may not be able to go through a football program.
Either way, I wish you the best of luck.
God has a will and a plan for all of us. But then, he gave us our own free will to make choices. We have to decide if we want to try things our own way or follow God's PERFECT and unfailing will for our lives. I pray everyday and tell God that I only want his will for my life. I surrender all to Him because I fully love and trust Him with all my heart.
I am a Sunday school teacher at my church. I also attend a Baptist church like you. I just taught my third grade Sunday school class that God provides all our needs and also our wants if our wants are in line with Gods will. God LOVES to give us blessings. He is the ultimate parent. And all parents delight in giving their children gifts. It could be that you have the desire to play from God and he can use you through playing to reach others. Or God may for see that if you play football you could be seriously injured in the future. I suggest you ask God! Tell God you only want his will for you life because that is a life filled with joy, He will never steer you wrong! Ask God if you playing football is in his will. Tell him your desire and struggles with it and place it in his hands. And ask that if it is not in his will for you (for your own good and well being) to take the desire away. Ask Him to show you and guide you. And then listen!
I will be praying for you!!!
I really don't think that God doesn't want you to play football. I believe that it is more of a challenge and remember that anything is possible in this world, you just have to be extremely determined to it. Start by thinking positively and not negatively. You are doing good by praying and having faith in God, and even though it might seem that he isn't helping, he is always doing everything for a reason. Also, like the other person said, start by practicing, nothing will come to you right away, you have to work for it. start small, don't set huge unrealistic goals (and i don't mean you playing football is unrealistic, i mean being perfectly fit by the next week). Keep on persevering and good luck, hope you make it.
god will not help you at football. i am a christian and think it is stupid that god would help you when you dont need it and you could do it yourself.it seems to me that you are putting so much faith that god will help you do this that you wont try it yourself.listen, i play football and god is not going to make you better the coaches will.
satan, really likes to complicate things and steal our peace as he is doing here.You, somewhere along the way have come to believe that if God wants you to do something everything will go well, and you will succeed in all you do.Not everyone that sits on the bench is out of God's will.Your not really lacking faith as much as you lack ability.And the problems your facing are very common.It all comes down to how bad you want to play.God would want you to do your best but that doesn't mean you will be the best.If you like football play the best that you can,but I assure you God is more interested in you being a good sport,encouraging the other players,and just learning to work as a team.Paul and Barnabas had a falling out over a young missionary named John Mark,they to needed to learn team work. They ended up splitting up and going different ways.Later they found themselves working together again but it did take sometime and I am sure they both learned a little something.We all seem to have problems learning to work together.It starts when we are children and follows us right on up to the leadership in the church.You as well as everyone else doesn't know what God has in store for us.For all you know He might be teaching you to get in shape spiritually.By denying the flesh and doing what you would like to do might just get you started on that road.The team work you learn while playing football could be applied to a position of leadership in the church.It's not always as easy as one might think keeping a church together in love.God Bless you !
Dear True Christian. Hold onto your dreams. God doesnt want you to give up on your dreams, as long as they dont oppose what He has in store for you. But, use your faith to make you get determined and stay determined. Dont give up, thats the devils desire for us on anything good. Use your faith to help you get focused on how to get in shape and stay there. to cut back and eat as healthy as you can, yet be on a plan you can follow, and do enough exercise to get you in shape. You dont have to run 5 miles a day. Thats a myth, and keeps many from exercising. Just add a little more movement to your life every day and get to where you are doing what you can to exercise and stay in shape. GO it slowly, one day at a time with God. Claim victory over this in Jesus and it will come. Stay close to God, and He will bring you victory in all things. Blessings come from obedience, and curse from disobedience. God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of hope. Our hope is in Jesus. Did He give up? No even on the cross, he was requesting pray for those who crucified Him. Be of this strong hope and courge. stay focused and be all you can be for God. I will pray for you..recipes cream
One thing I have learned is that GOD doesn't give you what you can't handle. I have done many athletics in my time. I wasn't the biggest, strongest, fastest or healthiest. By the grace of GOD, I over came my fear, pain and feelings of hopelessness and went on to practice and made the teams. My determination in doing what I loved and the effort I gave my team made a difference. Encouragement to my teammates( because I was a bench warmer for basketball) helped them play better. I didn't win more than 5 swim races,but finished high enough to help my TEAM make it to state. My teammates helped me get into better shape and with my home work. Those little lessons in life have helped me more than my congregation at that age. Until I got involved in our churches youth volleyball league. GOD opens many doors for us and we need to ask for his help to walk through them. He knows what lessons we learn on the other side of that door. And those lessons make us better people, not just better Christians.Christian advice for desperate teen? Please only christians who attend church or do something along those line
its a challange you have to overcome, god placed it there for this purpose
Just pray to God for guidance and strength to get through the practices. I know how football practices can be....they're not easy for any of us even the ones in tip top shape, the practices aren't supposed to be a walk in the park, and chances are if it killing you, it's killing others as well. Remember God helps those who help themselves. Good luck, God bless.
Dear truefire1, In my 44 years of facing adversity and challenges, it's been the times where I've handed these challenges over to God that I've experienced the most success. By ';success';, I don't mean to say that the end result is what I wanted. In fact, many times the end result is the opposite of what I hoped for in the outcome. Then, lo and behold, days weeks or months later, it was revealed to me that how things happened were all for the best. In your search to discover if playing football should be part of your journey, hand it all over to God. If things are pointing you in that direction, then follow. If every time you involve yourself in something football related, no matter how difficult or painful, and it feels right, if it feels like you're putting a round peg into a round hole, then God is giving you his OK that you're doing the right thing. Like any loving parent, God wants us to be our best. He wants us to be our healthiest and strongest. He knows that when we care for ourselves physically, we are less likely to succumb to weaknesses. Maybe, football is calling to you as a vehicle for you to improve yourself physically AND mentally. What ever comes of this challenge, I wish you the very best! Being 16 can be difficult in and of itself. God's peace and grace, kimmer
MUSLIM ANSWERING THIS QUESTION. i think that is possible that football is a motivation for you to take control of the health in your life. i think you should hold off on trying out for teams and spend some time doing endurance training so that you know your body will be able to handle the demands of practice, training, and playing.
OK get into shape the only way you can be an athlete is to be in shape (look at pro wrestlers, and that is fake.) It is written in the Bible that.... God helps he who helps himself.... so help yourself to the daily workouts and listen to the coaches scream all day (it really is the only way you will hear them outdoors, they ain't mean in high school.)
You did not give your age, but I assume you are in high school. Go talk to the coach, and listen to him!!!! God will be there for you when you really need Him. He will be there watching when you don't. Trust God above all else. Trust your coaches and pay attention, they want you to succeed both in school and on the field.
As for the coaches they will help you get in shape and build up the muscles you need to for football. Also take Track and Field in the off season, the work outs will keep you in shape all year.
Hi, how awesome that a teenager loves God and wants like minded answers.
Well first of all, it is your flesh that is fighting you, not God closing this door. Your desire to play is God. He wants you to be happy and to be doing something that you obviously have a desire to do. You have taken the first step in knowing that you are out of shape and need to work on it. Go and talk to the Defense Coach and let him know how much you want to play and your desire to be a part of this team. He just might take you under his wing and help you achieve this goal. If you become the player you want to be, not only will it be an awesome thing, it will benefit the team. God will give you the strength to overcome. He wants you to be an over-comer and achiever of great things. Whenever we have fear, uncertainty, or self-esteem issues, it is the work of the enemy. You take this challenge and ride it to victory. I will pray for you and will give you this scripture--- Joshua 1:9
God Bless!
I was an overweight teen Christian who played football. It was hard. The running just about killed me but I am glad that I played. If that is what you really want you can do it. Most of my friends who played football were not CHristians so spending time with them helped me to be a witness. There was a time when I didn't think I was having any influence but one night before a big game I was really nervous so I got down and started praying on my own in the locker room. When I finished and go up there were guys all around me praying too.
First of all, meet with the HS coach and tell him what your abilities are. Maybe he'll allow some leeway. Still, you need to lose some weight to be a DL and get into shape. If the practice nearly killed you, then that's what it's going to be like for EVERY practice and EVERY game. If the coach doesn't feel you are the kind to play football, he will let you know. Don't try to exhaust yourself.
God sometimes closes doors but opens windows. Maybe you may not be cut out for football but maybe you might be cut out for something else. Have you tried HS wrestling?
If you felt exhausted after a practice, then it's probably God telling you that you may not be able to go through a football program.
Either way, I wish you the best of luck.
God has a will and a plan for all of us. But then, he gave us our own free will to make choices. We have to decide if we want to try things our own way or follow God's PERFECT and unfailing will for our lives. I pray everyday and tell God that I only want his will for my life. I surrender all to Him because I fully love and trust Him with all my heart.
I am a Sunday school teacher at my church. I also attend a Baptist church like you. I just taught my third grade Sunday school class that God provides all our needs and also our wants if our wants are in line with Gods will. God LOVES to give us blessings. He is the ultimate parent. And all parents delight in giving their children gifts. It could be that you have the desire to play from God and he can use you through playing to reach others. Or God may for see that if you play football you could be seriously injured in the future. I suggest you ask God! Tell God you only want his will for you life because that is a life filled with joy, He will never steer you wrong! Ask God if you playing football is in his will. Tell him your desire and struggles with it and place it in his hands. And ask that if it is not in his will for you (for your own good and well being) to take the desire away. Ask Him to show you and guide you. And then listen!
I will be praying for you!!!
I really don't think that God doesn't want you to play football. I believe that it is more of a challenge and remember that anything is possible in this world, you just have to be extremely determined to it. Start by thinking positively and not negatively. You are doing good by praying and having faith in God, and even though it might seem that he isn't helping, he is always doing everything for a reason. Also, like the other person said, start by practicing, nothing will come to you right away, you have to work for it. start small, don't set huge unrealistic goals (and i don't mean you playing football is unrealistic, i mean being perfectly fit by the next week). Keep on persevering and good luck, hope you make it.
god will not help you at football. i am a christian and think it is stupid that god would help you when you dont need it and you could do it yourself.it seems to me that you are putting so much faith that god will help you do this that you wont try it yourself.listen, i play football and god is not going to make you better the coaches will.
satan, really likes to complicate things and steal our peace as he is doing here.You, somewhere along the way have come to believe that if God wants you to do something everything will go well, and you will succeed in all you do.Not everyone that sits on the bench is out of God's will.Your not really lacking faith as much as you lack ability.And the problems your facing are very common.It all comes down to how bad you want to play.God would want you to do your best but that doesn't mean you will be the best.If you like football play the best that you can,but I assure you God is more interested in you being a good sport,encouraging the other players,and just learning to work as a team.Paul and Barnabas had a falling out over a young missionary named John Mark,they to needed to learn team work. They ended up splitting up and going different ways.Later they found themselves working together again but it did take sometime and I am sure they both learned a little something.We all seem to have problems learning to work together.It starts when we are children and follows us right on up to the leadership in the church.You as well as everyone else doesn't know what God has in store for us.For all you know He might be teaching you to get in shape spiritually.By denying the flesh and doing what you would like to do might just get you started on that road.The team work you learn while playing football could be applied to a position of leadership in the church.It's not always as easy as one might think keeping a church together in love.God Bless you !
Dear True Christian. Hold onto your dreams. God doesnt want you to give up on your dreams, as long as they dont oppose what He has in store for you. But, use your faith to make you get determined and stay determined. Dont give up, thats the devils desire for us on anything good. Use your faith to help you get focused on how to get in shape and stay there. to cut back and eat as healthy as you can, yet be on a plan you can follow, and do enough exercise to get you in shape. You dont have to run 5 miles a day. Thats a myth, and keeps many from exercising. Just add a little more movement to your life every day and get to where you are doing what you can to exercise and stay in shape. GO it slowly, one day at a time with God. Claim victory over this in Jesus and it will come. Stay close to God, and He will bring you victory in all things. Blessings come from obedience, and curse from disobedience. God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of hope. Our hope is in Jesus. Did He give up? No even on the cross, he was requesting pray for those who crucified Him. Be of this strong hope and courge. stay focused and be all you can be for God. I will pray for you..
Any advice for a teen!?
What are some ways or things i could do to earn the trust of my mom?
Because of my past behavior my mom doesn't let me spend time with my friends as much as i would like to and we also argue a lot!
I just want to show her that i could behavior better but i do need a little help on how!
Thanks for any help!Any advice for a teen!?
for now, just do what she tells you. it's gong to kill you but it'll pay off. trust mee [:Any advice for a teen!?
The problem, as you say, is that your mother does not trust you. What you need to do is make her trust you. You need to show her that you are a responsible young woman.
What you should do is hide condoms all over your room, but don't hide them too well, hide them so that when your mother comes into your room to ask you a question, she sees them.
When she does see them, she will realize what a mature and responsible young woman you are by using these condoms, and she will trust you.
P.s. you also might want to hide some syringes or empty pill bottles around the room as well, just so that she sees that you aren't sharing drugs with your friends, and you are handling them responsibly.
well make her a card and buy her some flowers or something. and do stuff that wont make you guys argue. just prove to her that she can trust you.! help her with random things. ect;;
it worked for me (: lol
Hi
You can try being trustworthy on the things you ARE allowed to do. You know, like spending money and stuff. In time your mother will trust you.
You can try rectifying the mistake you made and accept the consequences.
for starters, not arguing with her would be nice
if you really want to impress her and show her that you've changed, then be responsible, be mature
Well what was your 'past behaviour'?
Because of my past behavior my mom doesn't let me spend time with my friends as much as i would like to and we also argue a lot!
I just want to show her that i could behavior better but i do need a little help on how!
Thanks for any help!Any advice for a teen!?
for now, just do what she tells you. it's gong to kill you but it'll pay off. trust mee [:Any advice for a teen!?
The problem, as you say, is that your mother does not trust you. What you need to do is make her trust you. You need to show her that you are a responsible young woman.
What you should do is hide condoms all over your room, but don't hide them too well, hide them so that when your mother comes into your room to ask you a question, she sees them.
When she does see them, she will realize what a mature and responsible young woman you are by using these condoms, and she will trust you.
P.s. you also might want to hide some syringes or empty pill bottles around the room as well, just so that she sees that you aren't sharing drugs with your friends, and you are handling them responsibly.
well make her a card and buy her some flowers or something. and do stuff that wont make you guys argue. just prove to her that she can trust you.! help her with random things. ect;;
it worked for me (: lol
Hi
You can try being trustworthy on the things you ARE allowed to do. You know, like spending money and stuff. In time your mother will trust you.
You can try rectifying the mistake you made and accept the consequences.
for starters, not arguing with her would be nice
if you really want to impress her and show her that you've changed, then be responsible, be mature
Well what was your 'past behaviour'?
Any advice for the jr. teen division of National American Miss pageant?
Hey ppls, I'm really excited for the NAM pageant, have all of my fees paid up, got my dress and interview suit, and am positive I'll blow the judges away with my personal introduction! Any advice you fellow National American Miss pageant enterers have for me? ALL comments are welcome! Thanks a million!Any advice for the jr. teen division of National American Miss pageant?
everyone thinks its like sum other BEAUTY pageant, ITS NOT its the exact oppisite its to build selth confidence and to make girls of all sizes feel great about themselfs. my advice is to SMILE! ALOT. be yourself, have fun, make friends and DONT WORRY!
the way 2 blow thee judges away with your intro is instead of saying sumthing like hi im bla bla bla from bla bla bla and i want 2 be bla bla bla say sumthing like hi, as future bla bla bla i would like to bla bla bla by doing bla blabla i want to be namiss jr.teen because bla bla bla, from bla bla bla, bla bla bla im blablabla!Any advice for the jr. teen division of National American Miss pageant?
Are you the same person who was on here asking if you should do NAM in the first place? If that was you, don't get upset if some other ';undeserving'; girl wins, these pageants aren't that important anyway. Look at all of the pageant winners getting in trouble these days. There are certain things you can gain from this experience (learning how to lose, confidence, public speaking, getting along with others, etc) but you can also learn those things in other, less superficial and less expensive ways. If the NAM thing doesn't work out, try sports or something else. Good luck.
My advice is don't do it. I'm sure you're much better than that pageant would allow you to be.
dont take yourself so seriously. how old are you? like 12. go out and have fun make a mess of your clothes. be crazy.
Always smile no matter where you are. The judges are everywhere. Be prepared beacuse you are going to be miles aways form home and most importantly have fun! YOu made it all the way to Nationals! Congrats! Try visting the New NAM Forum!
Good Luck!!!
I think these co called ';Miss Pageant'; this day and age 2007 is degrading for woman. There little Barbie doll images. Having to display one self like this. Pure vulgarity.
everyone thinks its like sum other BEAUTY pageant, ITS NOT its the exact oppisite its to build selth confidence and to make girls of all sizes feel great about themselfs. my advice is to SMILE! ALOT. be yourself, have fun, make friends and DONT WORRY!
the way 2 blow thee judges away with your intro is instead of saying sumthing like hi im bla bla bla from bla bla bla and i want 2 be bla bla bla say sumthing like hi, as future bla bla bla i would like to bla bla bla by doing bla blabla i want to be namiss jr.teen because bla bla bla, from bla bla bla, bla bla bla im blablabla!Any advice for the jr. teen division of National American Miss pageant?
Are you the same person who was on here asking if you should do NAM in the first place? If that was you, don't get upset if some other ';undeserving'; girl wins, these pageants aren't that important anyway. Look at all of the pageant winners getting in trouble these days. There are certain things you can gain from this experience (learning how to lose, confidence, public speaking, getting along with others, etc) but you can also learn those things in other, less superficial and less expensive ways. If the NAM thing doesn't work out, try sports or something else. Good luck.
My advice is don't do it. I'm sure you're much better than that pageant would allow you to be.
dont take yourself so seriously. how old are you? like 12. go out and have fun make a mess of your clothes. be crazy.
Always smile no matter where you are. The judges are everywhere. Be prepared beacuse you are going to be miles aways form home and most importantly have fun! YOu made it all the way to Nationals! Congrats! Try visting the New NAM Forum!
Good Luck!!!
I think these co called ';Miss Pageant'; this day and age 2007 is degrading for woman. There little Barbie doll images. Having to display one self like this. Pure vulgarity.
Movie Advice for a teen?
Im am a teenager and I am trying to find a movie similar to all the college ones with naked women and partying like american pie. If u have any suggestions gimme a good movie
These are the ones I already watched:
American Pie series
Miss March
Animal House
College Road Trip
Old School
Good luck Chuck
Soul Plane
thanksMovie Advice for a teen?
Revenge of the Nerds
Porky's
Valley Girl
Fast Times at Ridgemont High
Idle Hands
Can't Hardly Wait
Orange County
Accepted
Superbad
Knocked Up
Pineapple Express
Step Brothers
Role Models
Grandma's Boy
Sorority Boys
Waiting
Bully
Clueless
Saving Silverman
Strange Wilderness
The Last American Virgin
Sixteen Candles
Weird Science
The 40-Year-Old Virgin
The Wedding Crashers
Euro Trip
Smiley Face
Half Baked
Harold and Kumar moviesMovie Advice for a teen?
THE HANGOVER by far. Go see it, it's hilarious.
I love those kind of movies,
Try:
Superbad
Definitely Harold and Kumar 1 and 2.
Knocked Up
The 40 year old Virgin
National lampoons Van Wilder
the HANGOVER!!!!.....hilarious
Wedding Crashers
These are top two deffinately must see...both movies are amazing
Accepted
Saving Silverman
Whipped
40 Days and 40 Nights
http://themoviesempire.com/ this is a very good advice about movies.Try it and you'll see.
These are the ones I already watched:
American Pie series
Miss March
Animal House
College Road Trip
Old School
Good luck Chuck
Soul Plane
thanksMovie Advice for a teen?
Revenge of the Nerds
Porky's
Valley Girl
Fast Times at Ridgemont High
Idle Hands
Can't Hardly Wait
Orange County
Accepted
Superbad
Knocked Up
Pineapple Express
Step Brothers
Role Models
Grandma's Boy
Sorority Boys
Waiting
Bully
Clueless
Saving Silverman
Strange Wilderness
The Last American Virgin
Sixteen Candles
Weird Science
The 40-Year-Old Virgin
The Wedding Crashers
Euro Trip
Smiley Face
Half Baked
Harold and Kumar moviesMovie Advice for a teen?
THE HANGOVER by far. Go see it, it's hilarious.
I love those kind of movies,
Try:
Superbad
Definitely Harold and Kumar 1 and 2.
Knocked Up
The 40 year old Virgin
National lampoons Van Wilder
the HANGOVER!!!!.....hilarious
Wedding Crashers
These are top two deffinately must see...both movies are amazing
Accepted
Saving Silverman
Whipped
40 Days and 40 Nights
http://themoviesempire.com/ this is a very good advice about movies.Try it and you'll see.
Guy advice for a teen?
there is this guy i like, i think he likes me but, one day he's like really nice and the next day he being a total idiot?? whats up with this guy?? oh and hes like your so beautiful one day then flirting with any girl he comes by next???Guy advice for a teen?
ok i know what your going through. the guys seems bipolar and he might be like that n a relatioship to. you would get hurt by him. but if you do decide to date him dont fall to hard.Guy advice for a teen?
He is indeed a big flirt...
I know a guy like that.
This guy that you are asking about just seems like a big flirt who hits on every girl who comes his way.
Maybe you are one of his favorite girls.
But I don't think this guy is worth it, because what if you guys go out but he keeps flirting with a ton of other girls?
cause he's a normal, horny teen, and wants to put his penis into any female who will let him...
hes a big flirt i fall for them to u will relize wat he is and get over soon
chuck him....... total loser.
limitless such guys cn b seen evrywhr these days.
Player+ emotional= Unreliable
omg
the guy that i liked did the SAME exact thing to me
i was so confused that i told him how i felt about him
then u know what he does?!
he freaking starts to ignore me, and flirts with the other girls even MORE
from that, i can conclude that he was just playing me/ being a typical flirt
i think your situation might be the same
forget him! there are SO many other better guys!!
=]
Well im guessing his got looks and nothing else, go for someone more descent your better then that ****.
Ok, he seems like a flirt. Do you really think you should go right ahead and date him? Once you start dating him, he may start flirting with other girls to. You also said he could be and idiot, so would you really want to put up with this? I'm not saying you shouldn't ever date this guy, but if dating ever comes up you should talk to him about his flirting.
ok i know what your going through. the guys seems bipolar and he might be like that n a relatioship to. you would get hurt by him. but if you do decide to date him dont fall to hard.Guy advice for a teen?
He is indeed a big flirt...
I know a guy like that.
This guy that you are asking about just seems like a big flirt who hits on every girl who comes his way.
Maybe you are one of his favorite girls.
But I don't think this guy is worth it, because what if you guys go out but he keeps flirting with a ton of other girls?
cause he's a normal, horny teen, and wants to put his penis into any female who will let him...
hes a big flirt i fall for them to u will relize wat he is and get over soon
chuck him....... total loser.
limitless such guys cn b seen evrywhr these days.
Player+ emotional= Unreliable
omg
the guy that i liked did the SAME exact thing to me
i was so confused that i told him how i felt about him
then u know what he does?!
he freaking starts to ignore me, and flirts with the other girls even MORE
from that, i can conclude that he was just playing me/ being a typical flirt
i think your situation might be the same
forget him! there are SO many other better guys!!
=]
Well im guessing his got looks and nothing else, go for someone more descent your better then that ****.
Ok, he seems like a flirt. Do you really think you should go right ahead and date him? Once you start dating him, he may start flirting with other girls to. You also said he could be and idiot, so would you really want to put up with this? I'm not saying you shouldn't ever date this guy, but if dating ever comes up you should talk to him about his flirting.
First love any advice for a teen girl?
Well i am in love and want to know what to do to ask this guy out dont worry i am a girl any advice?First love any advice for a teen girl?
Smile, and don't try to impress him, think of how goofy you'd find him if he was completely focused on impressing you. Start out with an honest friendship, and pay attention to his body language and flirtation. If it seems your compatible, he'll probably take notice of how wonderful you are. Don't make it obvious that you're ';in love'; with him, it might irk him. Just act casual.First love any advice for a teen girl?
im a guy and i got a first love 2. jsut say something like ure kinda cute and ask him if he wants to hang out somtime. and look at him alot and listen to him. he sure to go out with u.
Talk with him, get to know him, find out is he worth loving. Because if his not, save you love for someone who does.
No matter what, DO NOT HAVE SEX!! Be in a FRIEND relationship! I still remember my first love. we were always in the same classes but even to this day he never even notices me! Ask him to go to the movies. Don't let him pay and don't you pay.Go Dutch --that means you pay for yourselves. This way you can find out if you REALLY like him. Make some excuse like I really want to see this movie and I think you would like it more than my other friends. In my situation, it turns out I am not missing anything cuz he didn't turn out to be the kind of man I like now. Don't give up, but don't feel this will be a life long commitment. Good Luck!
be careful and know wat ur facin now ok. thats all i can say.
Please take it slow and go buy your instinks
you're a teen..
and no offense, but teens usually say they are in love
and turns out that, after a couple of months, what they
really have is STDs...
at your age, admiring someone and dating is perfectly fine..
but falling in love... it's not quite right..
it probably is infatuation...
... but, you never know... this may turn out to be love..
.. start slow...
guys are always looking for a girl that will die for them..
.. and they will manipulate you in a way advantageous
to them only.. they know your weak point is that
you think you're in love...
.. they know you can't leave them, so they start using you..
... when you start dating..
let him know you have control of the relationship...
... that you are the one to lead the
relationship..
more questions? e-mail me..
godspeed
I would say just start talking to him. It always helps to establish a friendly basis before asking a person out
I'm a teen 2 !! its the perfect age so enjoy it as much as u can!!!
I hate to tell you this, but you're not in love; you're infatuated. There's a big difference between infatuation and love. If he likes you, he'll ask you out. You just need to encourage him by giving him signs, signals and simple gestures, like a smile, or a consistent hello every time you see him. If you really want to do the asking, strike up a casual conversation with him, and ask him to join you for lunch. But most importantly, just have fun and take it slow; no commitments.
well first off. there is a good chance ur not in love. trust me i have been there so many times ts scary. i also doubt it because u arnet evendating him. maybe u just really like him maybe no. im in love with cisco (hence my name but im a girl)and i havent dated him BUT then again im his skate team manager,photographer,best friend, and supplier. so yeah im almost 4 and i do love him. just make sure about it and then just tell him. it wont be hard cuz if u truly love him u wont be scared to say it
Smile, and don't try to impress him, think of how goofy you'd find him if he was completely focused on impressing you. Start out with an honest friendship, and pay attention to his body language and flirtation. If it seems your compatible, he'll probably take notice of how wonderful you are. Don't make it obvious that you're ';in love'; with him, it might irk him. Just act casual.First love any advice for a teen girl?
im a guy and i got a first love 2. jsut say something like ure kinda cute and ask him if he wants to hang out somtime. and look at him alot and listen to him. he sure to go out with u.
Talk with him, get to know him, find out is he worth loving. Because if his not, save you love for someone who does.
No matter what, DO NOT HAVE SEX!! Be in a FRIEND relationship! I still remember my first love. we were always in the same classes but even to this day he never even notices me! Ask him to go to the movies. Don't let him pay and don't you pay.Go Dutch --that means you pay for yourselves. This way you can find out if you REALLY like him. Make some excuse like I really want to see this movie and I think you would like it more than my other friends. In my situation, it turns out I am not missing anything cuz he didn't turn out to be the kind of man I like now. Don't give up, but don't feel this will be a life long commitment. Good Luck!
be careful and know wat ur facin now ok. thats all i can say.
Please take it slow and go buy your instinks
you're a teen..
and no offense, but teens usually say they are in love
and turns out that, after a couple of months, what they
really have is STDs...
at your age, admiring someone and dating is perfectly fine..
but falling in love... it's not quite right..
it probably is infatuation...
... but, you never know... this may turn out to be love..
.. start slow...
guys are always looking for a girl that will die for them..
.. and they will manipulate you in a way advantageous
to them only.. they know your weak point is that
you think you're in love...
.. they know you can't leave them, so they start using you..
... when you start dating..
let him know you have control of the relationship...
... that you are the one to lead the
relationship..
more questions? e-mail me..
godspeed
I would say just start talking to him. It always helps to establish a friendly basis before asking a person out
I'm a teen 2 !! its the perfect age so enjoy it as much as u can!!!
I hate to tell you this, but you're not in love; you're infatuated. There's a big difference between infatuation and love. If he likes you, he'll ask you out. You just need to encourage him by giving him signs, signals and simple gestures, like a smile, or a consistent hello every time you see him. If you really want to do the asking, strike up a casual conversation with him, and ask him to join you for lunch. But most importantly, just have fun and take it slow; no commitments.
well first off. there is a good chance ur not in love. trust me i have been there so many times ts scary. i also doubt it because u arnet evendating him. maybe u just really like him maybe no. im in love with cisco (hence my name but im a girl)and i havent dated him BUT then again im his skate team manager,photographer,best friend, and supplier. so yeah im almost 4 and i do love him. just make sure about it and then just tell him. it wont be hard cuz if u truly love him u wont be scared to say it
Any advice for a teen bible study?
This past year I've grown a lot closer to Christ and a friend and I decided that we wanted to start a bible study in order to stay close to Him throughout the year (when were not going to Christian camps, where most people get on a ';spiritual high';). We asked about 8 people to join in, but I honestly have no idea where to start! I have a devotional bible, but I don't know if that will work with groups or if its intended for individual use.Any advice for a teen bible study?
pray for guidance. rethink your goals and mission. ask yourself what do you want to achieve and share with others. recollect your spiritual thoughts.. being a bible devotee isn't enough to have a bible study..consult a priest or pastor...Any advice for a teen bible study?
Very good for you and your friends. Maybe try starting in St. Matthew 1:1. Read a chapter and then gather everyones thoughts about it. Discuss it. Have a good Bible Concordance and Dictionary handy as well. Also you may want to tape the session for later use. Good luck.
Catherine - you have really gotten a lot of good advice here. I agree with a lot of it. Please pray about it. Ask the Lord where He will take you. It's so commendable that you are a willing servant and I have no doubt that this type of youth ministry will interest a lot of young people. You will need to really speak to your youth pastor or you can contact ours if you don't have one. His name is Tim Layfield. He's so happy to get young people started in this area. His email is Tim@SunHills.org we are located in Northern California.
You can also go to your local Christian book store and ask if they sell any Bible Studies for teens or could they recommend one.
It's just so great that you want to reach out and keep that ';spiritual high'; going. katiefish %26lt;%26gt;%26lt;
Its the right thing to do, to learn the Bible. Planning to have a Bible study is not so easy. Secure first a Bible Study Guide for you to study. Ask the assistance of a Bible instructor or any qualified adult to teach you how to do it. With your honest and noble intention, I do believe that you will prosper and will remain close to God through Jesus Christ our Lord.
you deserve many stars for this I think it is wonderful that you have chosen to do this and God is smileing down on you,Pray about it and God will lead you where to start.God Bless you and keep it up
http://www.shepherdschapel.com/
The site above is best. The pastor used a King James Bible and a Strong's Concordance. Here is a free online resource that has both.
http://www.biblestudytools.net/
This site will be helpful as well:
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Good question. I know there is a student bible created specifically for bible study; if you go to your religious bookstore, they can point you in the right direction. there are also several books focusing on bible study available.
You could also make a list of things, as a group, that you are interested in learning more about and discussing, and study those things.
Consider also asking your minister or pastor for help in setting this up, and possibly see if he is willing to assist in helping you understand things that you are a group might not be able to get through or disagree upon.
Here is my suggestions, though some may not agree with it.
One thing I have learned during my life is to always have some form of a written guide when you begin a gruop Bible Study. I do not necessarly always worry about covering each topic in one meeting, sometimes it takes more than one meeting to cover a topic (due to discussions and the amount of time you are alotting for the Group Bible Study).
Depening on the group I have always found that using a Bible directed toward the age group is better to use if it has study helps and hopefully has some kind of a guide in it to help lead you through setting up each set of Studies.
If you would like, I could hunt down some suggestions for you to use to start with.
Was it the Spirit of God telling you that you needed to have a Bible study?
If not, then disregard what I am about to say.
If so, then why wouldn't the Spirit of God guide you to what to talk about? What to study?
I recommend having a youth pastor involved. Talk about the many issues you are facing, at least for part of it. How does God's word apply to what you are facing. Rely, all of those who come, to have the Spirit of the living God tell you what to do and what to bring up.
That is always my recommendation.
Well depending on where you live.. ask the local Christian store for advice on books you can get for study. and tlk to a church on some tips. I'm positive they will give you some good info. and good for you in starting that group!
You should really see this:
Part 1: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=2Sq-YUdq1OI%26amp;mode=related%26amp;search=
Part 2: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=-DylNVUN_3I%26amp;NR=1
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alot of people in general (not only christians) have found it very enlightening to start off with reading and disgusing -- John 10:1-42 %26amp; Acts 2:1-47 -- (basicly that whole chapter, best to go with a study bible or regular bible to read it) it tends to start a *very* long lasting conversation, so maybe you should study on that a little, just a sugestion.
another thing, if you plan on doing it that way, you might want to read those on your own 1st, slowly and a few times over (praying before hand usually works too) hope you learn lots, good luck and have fun with it! :)recipes cream
pray for guidance. rethink your goals and mission. ask yourself what do you want to achieve and share with others. recollect your spiritual thoughts.. being a bible devotee isn't enough to have a bible study..consult a priest or pastor...Any advice for a teen bible study?
Very good for you and your friends. Maybe try starting in St. Matthew 1:1. Read a chapter and then gather everyones thoughts about it. Discuss it. Have a good Bible Concordance and Dictionary handy as well. Also you may want to tape the session for later use. Good luck.
Catherine - you have really gotten a lot of good advice here. I agree with a lot of it. Please pray about it. Ask the Lord where He will take you. It's so commendable that you are a willing servant and I have no doubt that this type of youth ministry will interest a lot of young people. You will need to really speak to your youth pastor or you can contact ours if you don't have one. His name is Tim Layfield. He's so happy to get young people started in this area. His email is Tim@SunHills.org we are located in Northern California.
You can also go to your local Christian book store and ask if they sell any Bible Studies for teens or could they recommend one.
It's just so great that you want to reach out and keep that ';spiritual high'; going. katiefish %26lt;%26gt;%26lt;
Its the right thing to do, to learn the Bible. Planning to have a Bible study is not so easy. Secure first a Bible Study Guide for you to study. Ask the assistance of a Bible instructor or any qualified adult to teach you how to do it. With your honest and noble intention, I do believe that you will prosper and will remain close to God through Jesus Christ our Lord.
you deserve many stars for this I think it is wonderful that you have chosen to do this and God is smileing down on you,Pray about it and God will lead you where to start.God Bless you and keep it up
http://www.shepherdschapel.com/
The site above is best. The pastor used a King James Bible and a Strong's Concordance. Here is a free online resource that has both.
http://www.biblestudytools.net/
This site will be helpful as well:
http://www.angelfire.com/nv/TheOliveBran鈥?/a>
Good question. I know there is a student bible created specifically for bible study; if you go to your religious bookstore, they can point you in the right direction. there are also several books focusing on bible study available.
You could also make a list of things, as a group, that you are interested in learning more about and discussing, and study those things.
Consider also asking your minister or pastor for help in setting this up, and possibly see if he is willing to assist in helping you understand things that you are a group might not be able to get through or disagree upon.
Here is my suggestions, though some may not agree with it.
One thing I have learned during my life is to always have some form of a written guide when you begin a gruop Bible Study. I do not necessarly always worry about covering each topic in one meeting, sometimes it takes more than one meeting to cover a topic (due to discussions and the amount of time you are alotting for the Group Bible Study).
Depening on the group I have always found that using a Bible directed toward the age group is better to use if it has study helps and hopefully has some kind of a guide in it to help lead you through setting up each set of Studies.
If you would like, I could hunt down some suggestions for you to use to start with.
Was it the Spirit of God telling you that you needed to have a Bible study?
If not, then disregard what I am about to say.
If so, then why wouldn't the Spirit of God guide you to what to talk about? What to study?
I recommend having a youth pastor involved. Talk about the many issues you are facing, at least for part of it. How does God's word apply to what you are facing. Rely, all of those who come, to have the Spirit of the living God tell you what to do and what to bring up.
That is always my recommendation.
Well depending on where you live.. ask the local Christian store for advice on books you can get for study. and tlk to a church on some tips. I'm positive they will give you some good info. and good for you in starting that group!
You should really see this:
Part 1: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=2Sq-YUdq1OI%26amp;mode=related%26amp;search=
Part 2: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=-DylNVUN_3I%26amp;NR=1
star *
alot of people in general (not only christians) have found it very enlightening to start off with reading and disgusing -- John 10:1-42 %26amp; Acts 2:1-47 -- (basicly that whole chapter, best to go with a study bible or regular bible to read it) it tends to start a *very* long lasting conversation, so maybe you should study on that a little, just a sugestion.
another thing, if you plan on doing it that way, you might want to read those on your own 1st, slowly and a few times over (praying before hand usually works too) hope you learn lots, good luck and have fun with it! :)
Parents of teens: What's the best website for advice on raising these crazy young people?
thanksParents of teens: What's the best website for advice on raising these crazy young people?
Been there, and am there currently!! No website. Just common sense, love, dicipine and patieance!! Learn to listen, even when you don't want to! Don't be afraid to lower the boom when needed, and above all don't be afraid to hug em' even if they say ';Ohhhhhhh yuck, how gross, are you queer???'; Also laugh, laugh, laugh!!!!!!!!! Remember to choose your battles, 10 min past curfew, with a call in advance letting you know theyll be late, isn't a major crime. The child did the right thing!! It will all be fine, and over by the time the last one is 30...........................I think............Parents of teens: What's the best website for advice on raising these crazy young people?
No website is going to help you out... pur experience and learning as you go throught life is the best thing.
Please God helpme.com
family.org
famlylifetoday.com
fivelovelangauges.com
haha i'm not a dad of teens but i work with them and i have cousins so what's the problem maybe i can help
well these days poeple send their kids to daycare and dont spend much time with their kids at all and then wonder why the kids are so uptight as they grow older. sorry about the website i dont know any of that sort. but take time and get to know your kids try hard not to yell at them much, go places with them as a family. gl
I don't know how you feel about him, but I LOVE going to Dr. Phil's website. He has good advice and also, gives links to other websites. http://www.drphil.com.
Been there, and am there currently!! No website. Just common sense, love, dicipine and patieance!! Learn to listen, even when you don't want to! Don't be afraid to lower the boom when needed, and above all don't be afraid to hug em' even if they say ';Ohhhhhhh yuck, how gross, are you queer???'; Also laugh, laugh, laugh!!!!!!!!! Remember to choose your battles, 10 min past curfew, with a call in advance letting you know theyll be late, isn't a major crime. The child did the right thing!! It will all be fine, and over by the time the last one is 30...........................I think............Parents of teens: What's the best website for advice on raising these crazy young people?
No website is going to help you out... pur experience and learning as you go throught life is the best thing.
Please God helpme.com
family.org
famlylifetoday.com
fivelovelangauges.com
haha i'm not a dad of teens but i work with them and i have cousins so what's the problem maybe i can help
well these days poeple send their kids to daycare and dont spend much time with their kids at all and then wonder why the kids are so uptight as they grow older. sorry about the website i dont know any of that sort. but take time and get to know your kids try hard not to yell at them much, go places with them as a family. gl
I don't know how you feel about him, but I LOVE going to Dr. Phil's website. He has good advice and also, gives links to other websites. http://www.drphil.com.
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