Advice for parent with teens entering high school?

I have 4 boys age 14, 14, 11 and 9. My older two (twins) are going to high school in the fall. I am so nervous about it. They are good kids and don't get into any trouble, they are both honor students and work hard.





Does anyone who has been there, done that have any advice for me or tips or things I should know? I welcome advice or tips from other parents who have kids in high school or teens who are there now, or anyone really.





Obviously I've been to high school but things were different back then and it's been so long. Next week they are picking classes. I can't believe I'm going to have kids in high school LOL Man time flies!!Advice for parent with teens entering high school?
Tell me about time flying...seems like yesterday I was feeling the same as you! Now my oldest will be Graduating in 2 1/2 months my 14 year old son will be a Sophomore and my 13 year old baby will be a Freshman! Don't worry mom they will be fine! They will adjust and enjoy themselves...don't make yourself sick with worry, there is no reason to! In 4 years my daughter has not had a moments trouble...I love her friends and most of the choices she has made. The same with my son...he is a Freshman this year and has had a great time! So with my baby girl now going into High School I dont have a bit of worry! They all know everyone from playing Sports and Cheering for many years prior too and upon entering High School...your boys have played Team Sports...they will be Fine...mark my words!Advice for parent with teens entering high school?
I'm in high school now. In my experience, which may be different where you live, kids are a lot less cruel then they were in middle school. If I were in your children's position I would try to take as many honor's classes as possible because the students in there are far better company and get in far less trouble then some that are in the standard classes.
I'm 22 so obviously I haven't been in your situation yet. I'm just going to say they need to know that you'll need to support them and you need to actually mean it when you say 'you can tell me anything'. That's really important - that's what I didn't have so I was always hiding things.


Good luck. I know lots of kids who moved into highschool and didn't get into drugs and idiots etc.
Do not judge the kids they bring home on how they dress or what sports or clubs they belong to. Go with what and how they talk to you.


Keep your kids involved in something after school. The old adage about idle hands is very true at this age. Keep involved in what they are doing and even if you don't care or understand pay attention because its important to them.
am in my first year in high school. and let me tell you everything and everyone changed. like there are some things i did that i would never do. But its also really fun, there is nothing to worry about. Its just like when you worried about their first day of middle school but every thing turned out ok. the same will happen when they go to high school
get them into sports, Them will be so worn out they wont have time for anything else. After school clubs are great too. check up often it's OK you care whats going on in your kids lives. I have three sons 22,21,and16.
My oldest is going to high school next year as well. Makes you feel like an old lady doesn't it? I have mixed emotions about it, as does she.





I'm looking foward to reading some of these answers.
Your so right that time flies. My oldest daughter is still 13 years old. She is only in 7th grade right now but I am going to tune in on those answers.
Just stay involved with them and their school work. Ask them about their day at school, and how they are doing. ';Any tests you should be studying for, or projects coming up?'; Continue to praise them for good grades. And other academic accomplishments.


Ask about how they are making friends and their social life as well.


My oldest son is 15 and in 10th grade. He is doing well, but his grades could be better. He has freinds, but doesn't hang out with anyone who would try and get him to drink or do drugs, or sneak out of the house at night. So like I said, just continue to be involved, show that you care as you have always done.
you need to trust them to make the best decisions.





let them experiment, becuase that is what high school is for. if you hold them back too much, they will want to rebel a LOT, especially during college. tell them to be honest with you, and that if tehy are ever in a bad situation, you ARE THERE FOR THEM, and will not get mad if they do the right thing





also, unless tehy are slacking, do not harp on them to do their work. well this might not apply if they are both honors students and dont procrastinate, but if they do, just let them do it at their own pace. if they dont get it done, they will learn by themselves, and you can remind them if they really start to slack.





hope this helps!
Look, they will change up a little. Be more rebellious and all that ';good'; stuff. But, you have to stay involved in their life and you have to let them ';play around'; with everything a little bit. You should let them pick their own classes too. If their school is really strict on pointless stuff, than don't panic every time you get a letter in the mail. Their grades MIGHT drop a little bit in the middle, but don't panic, they just aren't used to the homework and stuff, by the second semester you guys will all adjust to having kids in high school, really it isn't that bad.